When parents consider what school to send their child to, they often first decide whether they should send their child to a single sex school or to a co-educational one.
15-year-old Tarun returned from a party a little before midnight, and
charged into the bathroom to relieve himself. "What happened, why the
rush?" His mother asked. "Weren't there bathroomsat the party venue?" "Yes, there were three bathrooms, but they were all locked
because couples were making out in them," he exclaimed, with
irritation. Tarun's mother didn't know whether she should be upset at
what youngsters in schools were up to these days, or be relieved that
her son wasn't much into such 'extra-curricular activities.'
Some parents preferto send their children to single sex schools, in order to minimise their
contact with the opposite sex, and so, to some extent, prevent their
children from indulging in such 'hanky panky.'
First of all, it is important to understand that just by sending your child to an all-girls or all-boys school doesn't stop them from seeking out the opposite sex. You can minimise contact when your child is in school,
but you cannot stop your children meeting others through tuitions,
extra classes, the neighbourhood, or through friends. If your child
meets someone with who she shares chemistry, and if she makes the
decision to get physical with such person, there's little a parent can
On the other hand, when you send your child to a co-educational school, your child will have exposure to the opposite sex from the outset. As a result, your child will not only feel more comfortable in the company of the opposite sex, but will also be able to handle advances better.
A girl studying in a co-educational school
may have ten boys in her class that are interested in going out with
her, and may ignore them all, preferring to just hang out with friends.
On the other hand, a girl in an all-girl's school
will meet fewer boys, and fewer still will show an interest in her.
Such interest, since it isn't something run-of-the-mill for her, may
cause her to get carried away. However, she may still have a lot of
exposure to the other sex, thanks to siblings. In this case, she may be
When making the decision of sending your child to a single sex or a co-educational school,
don't base the decision on whether you want to minimise or increase
your child's exposure to the opposite sex. Instead, consider the
reputation of the school,
the activities it offers and the quality of education and educators.
Certain schools are geared towards sending students abroad for further
studies. If you want your child
to go abroad, this is something you may consider. Then there are other
less traditional schools that focus more on activities and less on
academics. If this is something that appeals to you, then give this
fact more priority than the student mix. In fact, when deciding what school to send your child to, whether or not it is co-educational should be last on your list of criteria.
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