My Dream - My Daughter

Name: adoptve mother
Country: Singapore
purnima, i could never finish these articles witout a smile on my face and tears in my eyes. i have gone through the very same experiences as you and then decided adoption. sometimes i feel that the attachment that i have with my 18 yr old son is so fierce-would i have it if i has given birth. my siblings and cousins as well as inlaws tell me not to be overprotective and let ho , but i jsut can't do it. i have sacrificed so much for him that i can't loose my son now ! if i send him overseas to study i sometimes feel i will just go along as the bond is so fierce that i cannot break it !. the strength of love that adoption brings , probablly no other form of love will bring !

Name: Honey
Country: India
i have adopted a babygirl, she was 6mnths when she came home,now she is 15mnths.she is chirpy and full of life and loves me unconditional. but i am very anxios as to how she will react when she knows,i hope she doesnot doubt my love,i hope my daughter reacts like yours.

Name: life is good
Country: U.S.A.
congratulations and bless you and your family. we've adopted 2 girls from india (my husband and his family is from india). our oldest is now 4.5 and we recently brought home our second daughter who is 1.5. parenting, adopted or not, and family is a lifelong journey (or rollercoaster ride). i experience motherhood as a science project....enjoying it everyday. thanks for sharing, providing perspective, and good luck

Name: Karishma
Country: India
o mi god!!! this true life incident is really amazing and i am also thinking going in for adoption after reading u dear purnima. i am also longing to have a child but i guess fate has something else in store for me. i am tired of all the doctors that i am seeing. i am just hoping that i form enuf courage to go in for adopting a baby girl!!!! all the best to u and lots of love to malavika.

Name: adoptve mother
Country: Singapore
we 've an 18 year old son whom we actually adopted as a premature born baby. we were at a loss at the 'right' age of how to let him know 'the truth' . i wish this article eas available then to help us. anyways hats off to this lady whose done a great job of a mother . really i enjoyed reading this article and have been waiting for the bits to develop and share my experiences . every parent goes thorugh this . purnima, i could never finish these articles witout a smile on my face and tears in my eyes. i have gone through the very same experiences as you and then decided adoption. sometimes i feel that the attachment that i have with my 18 yr old son is so fierce-would i have it if i has given birth. my siblings and cousins as well as inlaws tell me not to be overprotective and let ho , but i jsut can't do it. i have sacrificed so much for him that i can't loose my son now ! if i send him overseas to study i sometimes feel i will just go along as the bond is so fierce that i cannot break it !. the strength of love that adoption brings , probablly no other form of love will bring !

Name: purnima.divvela
Country: India
hi, congratulations and god bless yoy!!! yes,these words truely come from the depth of my heart as a woman and as a mother.i really wish you good luck and a happy parenthood.i can undersatand the torture you people have undergone in the society.well,all i can say is raise the child well,both as a good daughter and as a good humanbeing.let the people who poked you praise you for such a wonderful child.may god give her long life with all good things life needs. bythe way,welcome to the troubles and confusions like all of us(just kidding). purnima. divvela.

Name: Wellwisher
Country: U.S.A.
congratulations on motherhood and a well-written article. hope to get many more such articles from you with your experiences. by the way, i also adopted a baby girl and i went through all the emotions you had..from infertility treatments to holding our daughter in our arms...i understood every word that you had wriiten from my heart!!! we also had a huge celebration and it was overwhelming to get a lot of goodwill. now, everyone from my parents' street in india wants to know about the baby's progress and everything. take care, enjoy motherhood and keep writing....all the best to you...

Name: Purnima
Country: India
yes - she knows about it and has been wondeful about it - and it does make for another article. will do so!

Name: anonymous
Country: India
part 2 was equally interesting..my question is does the girl know that she's adopted and how did she handle it? that would have been an useful experience for the readers. i ask this as an adoptive mother myself. i hear some have taken it very well and there are few that seem to get upset. your experience in this would be very helpful. very positive and upbeat article otherwise..

Name: malini
Country: India
hi friend, congratulations for a new life in yr life, i felt so good after reading yr article, actually i m at the midle stage of poking, and now kind of getting irritated by all that, lets hope i get a baby soon or else will surely go for an adoption.

Name: Mahisha
Country: India
hi, i felt very good reading ur experience. gods way of healing people is very tremendous. and tremendous are those who realize that. i salute to the great mother and the motherhood who could bring this truth to her daughter. love u and be happy. wish u all very happy holi

Name: Feli
Country: India
hi, congratulations. god bless you and your family. indeed you are very lucky to have a caring, loving and understanding mother. all the best... take care and enjoy every step of motherhood.

Name: Radhika
Country: India
purnima, gr8 to read thru the three parts...really appreciate your decision to adopt a baby . the third part wherein u tried to explain to ur daughter that she was adopted child, is rlaly mind blowing...i mean, u wud have undergone so much mental homework to answer her questions and to deal with her .well hats off to u ma'm.

Name: swati
Country: India
one of my cousin's has adopted a child after haing two of her own - one boy and one girl! she really wanted to do good to the society. hats off to her becasue she is a working mother.

Name: Asha Bhoumick
Country: India
it is heartening to read this article. she is lucky that she managed to fulfil her dream of adoption. my dream of adopting a girl child (i have a bilogical son who is six and a half years old) reamins a dream. i have tried getting in touch with many agencies but to no avail.

Name: wellwisher
Country: India
could not finish reading the article without tears in my eyes...look forward to the remaining story...we haven't told our daughter yet and i have heard that it is in schools the kids start talking and some of them are mean without realizing it...yours is a delicate narration...all the best

Name: sree
Country: Canada
hi i was really touched by ur article u r really lucky in having ur whole family support on that issue and u have done a great job heres wishing u both a wonderful future ahead

Name: prachi
Country: India
ur article was very touching.i m also looking for adopting a girl between 3-5yr old.please help, v r in hyderabad.hw old was she when u adopted her?

Name: sandhya
Country: U.S.A.
hey poornima, loved your article and the honesty in it came right through. i am so fortunate to have friends like you who have been able to deal with life in such a positive vein. lots of love to malavika.

Name: NILIMA MEHTA
Country: India
straight from the heart...a beautiful journey..and shared with so much sensitivity!!! and also a perfect combination of head and heart...

Name: deepti
Country: India
hi purnima, yours has been a beautiful journey, and this has motivated me to go ahead with my decision of adopting a child..u hve written the article with such sensitivity and honesty that it really touched my heart....

Name: Nandita
Country: India
hi,it was wonderful reading about your journey;i've started a similar journey two and half years ago and often wonder in nights like tonight 'how would she take it'; she is a bubbly 3 year old now and we are about to bring home a baby brother for her. though i am confident i'd be able to deal with the task, sometimes it terrifies me. i just hope my babies would grow up to be happy and content individuals; i must thank my wonderful family evryone of which has boosted my confidence.

Name: Kamlu Gulrajani
Country: U.S.A.
excellent article. thanks for sharing.looking forward to updates on malvika's progress and your family life.good luck!

Name: Purnima
Country: India
this is for prachi and anyone else who wants to know more. click on my name under the title and the email address is there where you can write to me.

Name: Sandesh Chopdekar
Country: India
you are really a very wonderful and brave mother. god bless you and your family.

Name: Binu Advani
Country: India
beautifully written and at the same time so informative.good luck - enjoy life's long journey together !

Name: mini
Country: India
i was touched and am slowly telling my 5 yr daughter that she is adopted by telling her stories where little children come in dream and how mother goes to find that child but at this age also they here carefully weighing each word like why such dreams come etc so it has to be dealt with honesty but gently may god giv us the wisdom and guide us so that our lovely kids do not feel hurt

Name: Debjani
Country: India
dear purnima, congratulation & thanks a lot as i have just started having those experiences which you had gone through 15 years back, we have just brought her home,today she has completed one month staying with us, she is now 6 months old, the same way i also trying to learn which cry means she is craving for luv & hug & which one means she is feeling sleepy, its really a journey for which i was eagerly waiting fopr, without this my life was incomplete. thanks once again, i thought i will be telling her when she will be 3-4 years old but after going through your writeup thinking 6 may be the right time. wish you happiness & may god fulfeel all her ( malavika's) wishes.

Name: kamal
Country: India
hi poornima nice to read your beautiful article.i have also adopted a baby boy when he was only 18 days old .he is 13 now ,in his teens,n he knows that he is an adopted child,but may be he is in his teens so .so many changes in him and his behavior.i am really in fxd how to deal with adolescent child. if u know someone with this kind of problem please do let me know.we both are taking very good care of him and we have forgotten that he is our adopted child.

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