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Role of in-laws:Vacation to india

2005-02-09

Name: dil 2000 Dear folks,
Just to make it short...I've been through an abusive(emotional) relationship with my in-laws in the US. They live in India. My FIL is has a reputation in the family as a womanizer...
MIL is very manipulative..
Issue is: We are planning to go to India for 2 months(vacation). My MIL wants me to leave my 5 year old daughter for a month long vacation with them. My husband knows that our daughter is very attached.. she still sneaks into our room if she has nightmares..she is still a baby..He wants to do as per his mom and is pushing me to agree to leaving my girl in India for a month.. I , as a mom, don't think that my daughter is ready for that..
Anyone been ins imilar situation? How did you handle it..
Thank you so much!!

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2005-02-09

Name: another dil
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I got it!

Just say its not possible. If you don't want then he just can't force you. I think if you don't stand now and accept such things then in future also he will push you for other things. Be firm and make it clear to him.
good luck.

2005-02-09

Name: augustborn
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No way!

No way lady...dont even think of it!
Think of the small child!

2005-02-09

Name: b
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NO!!!

I would suggest rather insist strongly that either he agrees with you that your daughter will stay with you guys, otherwise you won't go even go for a single day. Just a plain NO, and that's it!!!
I am surprised at how he can even think of doing this!!!

2005-02-09

Name: Diligent
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Say no

You know your child better than anyone, even your husband. Say no and stick to your guns. Even if they raise hell.

2005-02-09

Name: M
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I wouldnt .

If I were in the same situation I wouldnot .

I would just say NO . Let me tell you a simple NO with firmness worked well with my husband and MIL too . No need to explain to anyone .

Just say NO . Matter closed .

2005-02-09

Name: another dil
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I have a question?

Please let me know what you meant by \";My FIL is has a reputation in the family as a womanizer...\";

what exactly are you trying to say?

2005-02-09

Name: another dil
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i got it!

2005-02-09

Name: dil
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what I mean?

Just to give you an idea of how the household is...womanizer father, manipulative mother..

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