my baby iz 9 months old..she was tooo gud n play by her own wid her toys untill last month..she likes bathing n playing in water in bathtub but once she completed 8th month her behavior changed..
from the beginning my baby iz afraid to b alone.whetver she plays she always keep an eye on us..if my husband comes home she plays by her own with toys but still she will keep an eye on us to see whether we will left her alone ...if at all we go in to the other room to take something n back within 1 min..she screams like anything cuz of fear...she iz having thiz fear frm her 3rd month..and when my hubby leaves to office she hardly plays wid her toys..always come behind n plays wid me...dunt even allow me to prepare her food or my food..and now she hates bathing..i tried bath toys singing etc..bit nothing works.she dunt want to bath at all..screaming one if i take her in to bathroom.
she stand n walks holding something...i am worried bcuz i hardly get time to do my own things.i dunt even get time to bath or eat..hopw will i change thiz habit??
with me n my hubby's presence she iz very comfortable ..plays well n active.....plz help ...itz getting wosen day by day Priya Satish replied. As everyone said, it is a phase which will go soon. I am a working mother, leaves my 1 year 4 months old son with the maid from morning 7 till evening 7. He is happy with the maid and has no problem whole day, but the moment I come back, he needs me for everyhting. If I am in the kitchen and everyone else in the living room, he will come to the living room. I actually feel sad and guilty thinking that probably he is not getting enough of my time during the day. SO I spend time with him in the evenings, till he sleep.
The kids will be alright, just be patient. Introduce you baby to other kids. My son enjoys the company of other kids and plays with them. After sometime he will come and make sure I am there and go back and continue playing. Try taking her to the park and show her other kids playing. Hetal replied. its perfectly normal,,its sep anxty,,and nothing else.
babies tend to get more used to thr caregivers from 4th month and onwards..
its not fear,,its sep anxty,,now that your baby is 9months, make it a habit to talk to him, with eye contact,teach your baby saying bye and hi whenever you leave him or approach him..this will ensure him that you are not gettn disappeard,,,teach your baby to play peekaboos so that he understands that people dont vanish,,they are there only,,just that he cant see it,,it will give him safety assurance..
if bath is tug of war, fill the tub 1/4th and you yourself sit in it, with your baby,,make it a together thing ! she will love it..let it be a playtime,,talk to her, be calm and giggle a bit,,tickle her,,at 9months babies njoy these alot..
play with her toys in front of her, with her, and she will njoy them more..get things like big pictures and big coloured books with lots of faces in it or animals and birds,,kids at 9months love to watch that..sit and read to her,,put some music to soothe her,,sometimes overstimulation makes them feel sep anxty and they stick to you..
make frequent visits to busy places,malls,,make get togethers or parties at your home with kids and she will learn to do other things like independent play and all...this will help soothe her sep anxty or feelng of lonliness..
talk to her as often as needed even when you are away,,if you are in kitchen, give her some utensils that are not sharp and she can bang them, play with them,,kids after 9months onwards love to part of parents chores and dont like thr toys that often,,,so let it be that way,,,give her those tupper ware/glad ware to play and once a while make her feel interested by putting her toys in your kitchen,,amuse her by puttng them in kitchen drawers and she will love it...all this is fun part and never get tired of this,,this is pretty normal,,now she will like to be part of what you are doing,,tommorrow like my dd she might even start emptying your dishashers or will be interrested in playing with flour dough !! well,,thats all thr exploring part,,make her interested in things around her..and she will njoy with you and wont make you frustrated atleast,,and who knows might leave you for a while to visit restroom or take a quick bath !! keep working !
thats all can be done as of now,,this is just a phase and it will pass on !
good luck ! take care.
Poonam replied. Hi
Baby´s nature change sometimes for few days or weeks, then they come back to them. Sometimes it´s a phase. So you can wait. My baby also used to do these kind of things. But after few days, he goes back to his own nature. So be patient and supportive. Perhaps, something bothers her, she can´t tell u. PP replied. even my baby does the same and as i heard most of the babies becomes too much cipkoo to mommy aftet 8 9 months i have seen this behaviour change in many babies around me..may be they start recognising mommy more and needs to be secured with mommy all the time even my baby never allows me to leave her for a second alone in room even if she is njoying a lot with the toys but the momenr i stepped out she starts looking for me she started doing all this when she was 9 months...and she is happy with the dada in eve she is too happy on her own but atleast one of us shld be thr or some one else whomn she knows very well like frnds or family.