Hi Friends,

I am married for 3years by now. I & my husband both are ambitious and career oriented. We decided not to have kids till the time we settle down in our career. There is not tension in our relations but both are very busy and not having good sex life. I am not willing to have kids for another year which would mean that I will be 30years old and my hubby will be 32years old. I have heard from my parents and friends that its difficult to conceive a child after a certain age considering our life style.

I am bit worried about it. Is it true that it’s difficult to conceive child after the age of 30?

Thanks in advance for helping out. vilma replied. If u think people are scaring u . U can go to a good doctor who u believe is the best. And ask the doctor is it difficult to conceive when a lady is 30. And definetely the answer will be yes. If u dont listen and trust others. U can atleast trust a best doctor. Pari replied. Hi dear..iam not here to scare u in anyways but to just make u realise that life does not go as per what u plan. I have been married for 5yrs..intially we decided that we wld wait for some time till we settle down and have some savings. .after 2 yrs our parents started asking us. we tried to avoid as we did nt feel it was necessary..we stopped using any protection and a year passed without conceiving..all our friends started to ask and what hit us later was we did nt use any protection and why was it that i did nt conceive, thats when we decided to see a doc..when we went down i was informed after a couple of test that i had a cyst and wld need to go through a laproscopy other than that there was no ways i cld conceive..i went ahead with it and waited for 3 mnths to try once again..in the meantime my hubbys friend who just got married his wife conceived in 2mnths..i was really happy for her but got irritated with myself..i went throught a lot of medication and injections to have a baby..in the end frustrated to the core i stopped all medication and after 6mnths i conceived..i was 29yrs when i conceived..through out my pregnancy there was no complications and the first sonography when i saw my little one i was the most happiest moment of my life infact i cld say our life..i was depserately waiting for my baby..everytime my baby moved or kicked me i felt on top of this world..then the d day arrived..in the mnth of april 2009 i delivered a baby boy but God had other plans for us..the docs cld nt save my baby and he left us in tears within 4hrs of cming to this world..thats the day when i realised that nothing that we plan or decide goes according to it, there is God above all and he decides what has to happen..i sometimes still regret as to why did i wait for so long to have a baby and now for how long wld i have to wait for the next one.. mina replied. first of all, everybody is different. anyone can face complications in pregnancy. all of my friends decided to have babys after 30, infact they are over 35 and everything went well. the chances are not that high and most of the times it is heridity. so don' t worry, u will do alright. relax. have a good diet and excersice. i am 30 and i have 2 years old and have been married for 7years. i will have my second one around 35. so take it easy. these people ARE SCARING U. Gowri replied. hi I saw your query!!! Yes, your parents and friends are very true. Normally atleast for the 1st baby you need to conceive before age 30. Now a days lots of complications are there. So try to conceive at the earliest.