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Hi everybody,

Girls i'am feeling low today. One of my husband's friend called today , his wife is pregnant. They just tried from 4 months and now she is 2 months pregnant. Everybody surrounding me are getting pregnant just at the drop of hat?
I have to call her and wish, but deep inside me i'am dieing of pain. I'am happy for her but i'am sorry for myself. My husband tells me to forget everything whenever it has to happen it will happen, he asks me not to get obsessed with indiaparenting site, not to get into any kind of TTC site. Girls who else can understand my feelings then u all.

Girls Will I ever get pregnant? WILL I.
Will i ever carry a life inside me?
I'am waiting for that day. Its just that i get tiered of waiting sometimes, but i will wait i will wait. I think GOD has forgotten our address , one day He will visit our house and bless. I'am just praying hard.....
I'am reminding myseld again that everything has time and my time has not come, but it Hurts girls, it hurts. Which nobody else can understand better then u all. May be by the time i get pregnant i will be too tiered to get excited also.

Sorry for writing long message, i did not want to write a sad message and disturb others, But i could not i had to tell u all.

Sorry again girls ....

luv
kshama Lucky replied. Hi dear,

We are all in the same shoes...
IDLE mind is the Devil's workshop..!
I too came across certain situations and i used to feel depressed as i stay at home now.Now i started going to Gym as well as Yoga classes every alternate days...Yoga really makes me feel better.I forget the whole day's events during that one hour and i come home fresh...cook dinner...watch TV and go to bed.

If you have Yoga centres nearby and if you want to, you can try that.it really matters.

You are a lady with willpower na...So dont get depressed and keep trying.

Lucky
mk replied. Hi Kshama,

I know how it feels when someone around u gets preggy.We r all going through a tough time ,but u know every tough time passes & good time comes following it.I think its natures law.I know when it lingers long we get impatient,loose faith in God,frustated etc,etc..
Its ok to feel that.Ok to be low for some time but then try to think +ve as what all the things God has given u.
Dont worry dear u will definately get pregnant.Just try to be in +ve frame of mind.I know its difficult, but just try it out.
Hope its not too much for u to take in.(:
lol
mk S M replied. I know what you feel.You have to have lots of faith,i know its easier said than done.....maybe as ur hubby said it may be a good idea to stay away from the ttc board you know once in a while,just like sunshine and karishma have said.We'll always be here for you.

Maybe pamper yourself a little,go for a new hairdo or maybe have a new hobby something you've always wanted to do.

It will help you a lot dear.I have two friends one who actually had been taking homeopathy to induce menstruation from the age of 18,and she also had a very small uterus she got pregnant and have a 2 yr old kid now,and just when I and my hubby started for our ttc another friend got pregnant and now have a 4 month old baby .

I know sometimes the wait seems just too long.Have courage and stay strong.

All the best. Suba replied. Dear Kshama,

I can understand your feelings.Even i feel the same.Everyone around me got pregnant and have healthy babies.Some of friends ,relatives are 2 nd time pregnant.Even i got married around the same time ...But no luck for me.God has time for each and every one.But he is taking too much time for us....Even my husband used to say don't visit ttc board and don't compare your self with others .But belive me u can express your feelings here...Lots of us are here to support you.Don't you worry!!!If not today probably 2morrow our day will come....like pari...don't loose your hopes....Cheer up!!!...Lots of baby dust to all of us :)...

Suba Shree replied. All of us in the same boat !!! When we want something very badly we notice that everyone around us has it so easily and we seem to have great trouble getting it .This is mother Nature's rule .May be we shd stop wanting it so badly then it wud very easily come to us...Your husband means that i guess.
WE had been destined to go through this tough phase ..and each one of us will have their own difficult bridge to cross .So now its our bridge ..if we pass this then there wud be happiness eternally .WE will be happy that this has come to us early.After this its only fun , happiness and enjoyment .
Take care !!!
Lots of luv
Shree kshama replied. Sunshine and karishma,

U'r messages made my day girls, thanks a lot for the lovely message. Luv the way u have assured me. Just love it. U girls are so matured in u'r thinking, thanks again

Yes i will try not to be very obsessed with TTC. I will try to keep myself so busy that i will have a little time to think about TTC.

Loads of best wishes to u both
luv
kshama karishma replied. Hi dear,

I can very well understand what you are going thru. Caus i am also in the same shoes as u. Only wearer of the shoe knows where it pinches the most.

Pls. dont keep thinking of it. I know easier said than done Caus even i feel very hurt when i hear anyone else's news.I know i shud b happy to hear so but somewhere deep down inside it really feels as if thousands of needles are poking me

Sunshine has very well made u understand every bit. U dont get too glued to ttc board. I know u get a gud support while u vent out ur feelings as there are many here who r going thru all the trials and tribunals as u...... Even i wont tell u to stop visiting this site. I know we all are there for one another and this is the only best way to open ur hearts out. Even my hubbs tell me to stop visiting this board. He doesnt know but i write to all u girls. So i have kept it that way. I just tell him tht its just that i am reading all the mails. hahahha!!

Today my maid told me about a lady whom she knows, she said that she is pregnant the 4th time. I just laughed it out and told her, y is not God looking at all of us and then thinking of giving babies to people who cant afford. She said, Yes, Then when my maid told her to do operation to stop child birth tht lady says she is scared to do so. My maid asked her, to keep on getting pregnant and giving birth, is this less painful than stopping childbirth??? she just told to me and laughed it out loud. I didnt have anything to say and i smiled tooo!!!

Dont worry dear!! There is time for all and we will also give news soon!! God is just testing our patience and seeing if we are angry with him.

Dont worry dear, All things will fall in its own right place sooner or later.

U n our GANG will always be in my prayers.

Loads and loads of baby dust on u and all of us

Karishma Sunshine replied. Babes... we're all here who's been there and done that...All of us here experience the same kind of truama..U know what your hubs said about staying a bit away from this baord may not be such a bad idea... I can totally understand that u need to share what you're feeling and obviously with those who comepletely and truly understand and empathize. But what happens is that after a while it gets a bit depressing, coz pretty much all of us are low and u know how they say \";misery loves company\"; we end up being low together and go away feeling low sometimes.
At any rate, I wouldn't tell u to stop visiting the board or the site, but maybe just don't let yourself get obsessed with checking it every hour or something.. maybe just once a day.
While we are discussing the issues here, we tend to focus on problems and that adds to stress.. So in order to avoid any additional stress, sometimes its better to get away from things.
I would only tell you this, focus on other things, workout, stay healthy, enjoy your relationship with your hubs without letting making babies be the centre of your relationship. Don't make it the end all of your marriage. concentrate on each other, be romantic, be fussy, be happy, be funny...
Go out, party, read good books, watch a few weepy movies.. but don't focus on this..
As for your hubs friends, would u rather that another couple go through the same tortures you're going thru? Its a cruel thought I know, but when each of us has to face this situation when we know of people who just like get together try and wham their pregnant and we cannot find the charity in our hearts to be happy for them..we need to ask ourselves this question.
Very recently I was in your shoes.. my gym instructor informed me earlier this week that she's expecting. She got married last year, was living away from her hubs, he just joined her in feb and now she's 2 months pregnant. when she told me, it felt like a thousand and one needles we shot thru my heart... and at that instant i thought, would I have felt better if after a few months she'd have told me that she was facing problems concieving.. and the answer made me feel about an inch small...
Think about it.
This is another test from God my dear, HE's just testing our values and principles. Envy is not a virtue.. so let's try to get above that...
I hope I ahven't lecutured you too much and bored with all my talks..
I just want you to take care, be healthy, be happy and enjoy life, no matter what comes.
Take care,
Love always.
-Sunshine