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Pari,
Hearty congratulations on twin pregnancy!

Well I don't know what your Dr. told and where and what all you read but certainly it's not always the case that twins are high risk pregnancies. I met a few pregnancies with twins and have never heard complications, all delivered healthy cute twins. What matters is personal comfort and confidence. This in itself sooths all stress. Reading improper or hearing scary things always add to stress and do adverse to anyting. Believe me you have nothing to worry but to get excited to enjoy double kicks and brining two beautiful babies and raise them in world.

YOu both should be overwhelmed and thankful to great God than getting worried as to you were not ready for twins. Yes, that's asking too much from God. First you want to have baby and when he offering two then say I was not ready:-) Get my words in right spirit.

As said by Padma, you will need little more care than you would have with singlet. Besides we are here whenever you need. Come on get over your anxiety and concerns and try to enjoy this pregnancy.

to be honest, I was wishing to have twins when I was pregnant, because my MIL had twins after my husband. there are millions of pregnancies around the world with twins and some of them go without noticing they have twins until delivery, my MIL was one of them. She knew this was a diffrent pregnancy but never knew what twins would be like and was not sure if she has twins, but she delivered. My SILs are mother of 2 and 3 babies. Enjoy pregnancy, yes it will be much more work to bring twins once they are born but you will find way to do that job as well but as far as pregnancy is considered take good care of yourself and bring any concerns to your Dr. and will be all fine.

Wishing you a pleasant pregnancy.
Archie pari replied. hi archie!!
its great to hear from u!! i was never expecting such a long msg from a busy person like u and i must tell u that it does reassure me a lot, coming from a person who has as much knowledge as urself. thanks a lot!!
maybe u misunderstood the contents of my message. i just want to clarify to u or anyone else on this board who thinks the same. i never said i AM not ready for twins. i just said i WAS NOT prepared for twins. who suspects twins when they have a positive pregnancy test unless they conceive thru IVF? but myself and my hubby fell in love with them the moment we saw them on U/S. and we are totally totally ready for them. we are ready to face anything and everything that comes with such a pregnancy.
my doc just said that its comparatively high risk when i asked him. he didnt want to make me anxious but surely i ought to know of all the risks involved to be as careful as i need to be. my fears in this regard are not unjustified, considering my past history. when i conceived the first time, i started looking for baby names. a miscarriage for me at that time was something that could never happen to me. it was something that happened to 'other women'. but now i know from first hand experience that it can indeed happen to me. my fears may not leave me till i deliver bcoz happiness has always been elusive with me. i dont want to be thankless to God...and i sure am thankful to Him and to all the wonderful ladies on this board. this is the only place i can vent out my feelings.
in my case, i cant go by the odds of what usually happens. what are the odds of a couple conceiving when they are not trying?, what are the odds of a first pregnancy ending in a m/c? (20%, i know that one), what are the odds of a person being infertile after conceiving once?, what are the odds of a person conceiving twins when on clomid? (8%, i know that one too). so u can see the odds have never been in my favour. i have always been in the 'minority group'. but yes, i know God is on my side for the time being, my friends on this board are with me, and i have my mom's support.
at this moment, thats more than enuf to keep me happy.
i did not mind ur message one wee bit. i dont mind a little constructive criticism from any well wisher :-). i appreciate ur concern and support. i just needed to clarify myself.
thanks again for being there,
pari.