Planning a Baby  Discussion Forum

guys, i must tell u this..even though i know u would hate me after reading this.
last nite we went to a party. till then, i had been taking really good care of myself. there the ladies asked me to dance and i didnt want anyone to know that i m expecting, so i did a little, just one or two steps. since that happened after dinner, i had really bad nausea after that.it was so bad i had to leave the party and come home.
i have been feeling so guilty since then. i have done a horrible thing. i didnt take care of the preg i got after such a big ordeal. i feel my mom hates me, i feel my baby hates me, i feel u guys hate me..im so sorry.
uptil now whenever i got scared for my pregnancy, i used to tell myself, \";20 good luck msgs, everything will be alrite, 20 good luck msgs...\"; bcoz i got 20 of them thru this board. but now i feel wot can good luck msgs do if im not careful myself, moreover, u guys pray for me only bcoz u dont know how i have behaved!! u guys have done a lot for me, i just need to be honest.
im sorry guys, its just people who knew of my preg the first time were so mean to me after my m/c...asking questions like 'u trying for a second one?' or 'u started trying again?' i just dont want people to suspect even. and i couldnt think of any excuse there. i havent told my dad or my brother even. but that is no justification for wot i have done.
guys, please dont pray for me if u dont think i deserve to be a parent...
pari. karishma replied. hi dear,

u hvnt done anything wrong by dancing.

But pls. take care. thats all i can tell u.

luv u lots

karish Pooja replied. I logged to the board to check if you have posted and saw a sad face, I was really scared as I was reading the message :( but I am happy now as it was not what i thought. Please please take care of yourself and donot take so much stress, We all are there for you, you have been in my prayers...small things like this would not have drastic impact...just relax pari! do what you like to do....this board is blessed having people like you...please take care of yourself..and donot feel guilty, though I have also not been pregnant...but I think small things like this would not harm....

Please stay positive and keep us all updated!!

luv and hugs
P karishma replied. take a chill pill baby.

Dont worry Things will do gr8 for u!!!

Ur mom is ur guardian angel. and she will guard u no matter what u do.

Just enjoy urself.

Luv

Karish i replied. Why my dear so much tension that too unwanted at this time... U need to relax...U did a small dance no problem & al this nausea & all happened coz u r in the beginning.....Anway Pari dear dont worry..u have to relax & dont get tensed or dont feel bad for no matters as u have one little darling inside u..ENjoy my dear...anywya we r not going to stop praying for u there....Take care ,take rest & enjoy ur pregnancy. Sunshine replied. Chillaxe dudette, yes i know typically american slang.. :)
Anyways, just chill. If I was you i' d probably be dancing all the time... Just be cool, your Pari junior probably had a lot of fun while you were dancing.. Just be happy and think happy thoughts..
Remember, even how you THINK right now will affect the disposition of your lil one..
So be positive, be happy, think of your mom, and your best friend, and of the sunset, the beach, the beauty, God, your angel... imagine holding the lil tyke in your arms.. and seeing that look of pure love in it' s eyes..
And trust me...
Everything will be ok.
Take care,
Have fun,
Don' t feel guilty.. just avoid it next time, saying that you' re not well.
Or get on the floor and don' t move too much.
Take care,
Much love,
Sunshine.
Priya replied. Pari
I danced when i was pregnant i think your baby may have even enjoyed it if you are happy lil one is happy too
Priya july 2005 Jaya replied. Hey Pari,

U did not do anything wrong...just forget about that and start thinking of ur new coming baby.

I am sure u will not do anything that will hurt the baby, u'll be a good parent....just relax.....and don't worry about the past....the past is past, it will never come back....plan well for the future and act accordingly.....everything will be fine....

Wish u a happy n healthy pregnancy.

Rgds,
Jay RK replied. Hi Pari,

Dont worry Pari,everything will be fine and Im sure no one will hate you.But u keep in mind that the next 9months u need to take care ofself and the little one also.And please pray that we too give u the good news soon...

Rgds

RK kshama2 replied. Hi Pari,

Don't worry with all these thoughts. U r perfectly OK, that nausea things are due to pregnancy. U trying to be happy and sure be happy little moves are perfectly ok.
But but be careful net time on

kshama hopingfortejas replied. Pari,

i have only one word for you ...CHILL .. :)

dont make yourself miserable with all htese negative tests .. i am sure that few steps is not going to affect the baby ...

i am sure you will be a good parent ... these are the best times in your life ..dont make it bad for yourself with all these negative thoughts ...

i am sure you will be a great mom and i will keep praying for you :)

-P