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good for you abc xyz! common in the dil union!

was just thinking the other day...what would have happened if..

..women refused to stay at in-laws place and instead men had to..

..women would work full time having a life with no worries as the men would stay home and take care of the babies..

..women would have a social life and their friends would drop home every weekend instead of the men's..

..women stay late with their friends while men open the door asking 'did they have dinner?'..

..women instead of adjusting for the first time ever, gave back good to the in-laws the first instant they dishonored them..

..women in charge of the money while the men would be happy with their part of taking care of groceries..

its so easy to be a good husband/son-in-law in our society..you just have to be a normal decent human being. but a nice dil would be some1 who has laid down her life for the in-laws(only,for parents wouldnt qualify!) and smiles even while in immense suffering!!

wot say all dilis? shelly replied. ... DILs are supposed to forget their families, give all their hard earned money to their in-laws.. how can a girl who forgets about her family where she stayed for the most part of her life and got so much love and because of whom is the person she is now... love her new home and people in her new home.. cant they understand such a small thing?? xzy replied. I wish it was possible !! Why women-specially dils have to suffer so much? Why can't their husbands support and understand them? A Mil, who herself must have been a dil once, will never understand a dil's feelings- why this hypocrisy?? I really feel bad- but I promise one thing to myself, that I will never let this happen to my near-dear ones. I have 2 brothers and I am waiting for the day when they get married. My bhabhis will have my full support and love.

Really its a shame that men sometimes behave like a new born kid, they turn to his mom-dad for every small things. I dont understand why? And I am sure of one thing, if I would do the same thing- like going to my parents for every lil thing, my hubby and his family would never like it.

This is true that we get married to be happy, but girls, this is our view-point, not our hubby's & in-laws'. They have different expectations from us. They want us to give them unconditional love and respect and forget everything else. Sometimes I think why dont men marry to a robot, who would do whatever they want and would always smile and never complain.

Girls- yahi duniya hai.marriage is not what we see in movies and read in books. Its totally different.

Thanks to the world of Internet, that today I am able to share my thoughts with other DILs.

Good luck to all of you .
J replied. This sounds like a dream world to me........Sounds like the whole world has turned topsyturvy I am just waiting for a day like this to come when we will witness bidai of our husband........Forget staying the whole life they will never be able to stay overnight without their parents... Sometimes it seems as if they are new born kids who cannot do without their parents....Such a shame!! All of us get married to be happy & not be a slave. ....We have full right to wake up late on holidays.,..full right to take rest the way men do.......Anyways all of these are fiction & not reality. So, lets face the reality DILs