Planning a Baby  Discussion Forum

Hello Everyone!! I am Keerthi. I am doing my MS in one of the universities in Chicago. I am 23 and my husband is 31. Though we are married 4yrs back, we are ttc since 4months with no luck. Actually, I do a lot of work daily..attending classes, doing homeworks and projects, doing part time job, cooking, cleaning etc etc. Does this stress hindered me in conceiving? Can any one tell me to what extent stress plays a role in conceiving.
I am not using any ovulation kits, or tracking BBT till now. Both myself and my husband are physically fit. I have regular menstrual cycle with 25days length. I always have cramping, bloating, nausea on my first day. I got it checked up many times by gynaecologist when i was in India and they said I am perfectly normal.
Eagerly waiting for your replies. Finally, I really appreciate for the work done by Archie and others. Just wanna tell that there are many women in need of people like Archie, especially when we are living away from our parents in a new country with no much knowledge about pregnancy.
hopingfortejas replied. Hi,
I am also sailing in the same boat -married+ do masters inaustin+working, so i understand what u mean :) ...

but i have one more problem , which is i have PCOS .

i would recommend that since it is easy to lose track of things in busy schedule to use Ovulation kit (it is better than BBT..)

and frankly, i dont think you need to even worry about this, since your esults are normal ....

hope you conceive soon archie replied. Dear keerthi,
your case is absolutely normal and nothing to worry about.
Trying for 4 months mean nothing. Let me know what type of contraceptives you were using for 4 years?

If your cycles are very regular then have intercourse on 8th, 9th, 10th, 11th and 12th day only. Do not intercourse before and after suggested dates.
Do not think about ttc while following suggestions.
If things don't fall in right place in about 4 more months then you should use OPK and combine that with BBT. Starting BBT from the next cycle won't be a bad idea.

Also from 10th day take things easy, do not overdo. Yes, stress has a huge negative role on this process.

What type of work your spouse does?
Eat only at home and completely cooked meal. No restaurants for a few months and no quick pick ups also.

keep in touch. Do not think about ttc even if you ttc, the more you pay attention negative it works for you.

Archie Rupa replied. Hello there,

Welcome aboard......in just few days time u will feel like a family to this board....bcos its tht supportive with great friends and wonderful people who care a lot abt u...even though they are going thru the same problems but if u need help they are there for u...

My dear....pls dnt take stress.....even though its been 4 years u r married...u hve been trying for only 4 months..so dnt worry abt it..i knw for some it just clicks in the first month itself...but thts all in gods hands.....so just relax....stress does play a lot in this..u need to be calm and extremely relaxed...

U say tht u r normal according to the docs...well if u want to be sure with all possibilities..get ur hubby also checkd...to find out if the sperm count is normal so u can rule out any impossibilities....and get treated..if nothing is wrong then darling just enjoy the fruitful married life and wait for ur little one.

ALl the best to u

Loads of baby dust on u

Rups i replied. I think u need to relax.its just 4 months since ttc so dont worry.i dont think i have to add more as KArishma,Sunshine have almost covered all to say.

So relax dear & prayers for u to find ur happiness soon.
I karishma replied. Hi Keerthi,

As Sunshine says, you are tooo young to let go off your youth. Stay calm and focused. We, at this board have been married for more time than you and i hope that you get out off this board as quickly as you came in.

Please dont allow stress to take a toll on u. You are too young. Doctors say that even after one year of trying if u dont have any news u gotta go to them. So be calm and dont think too much. Many things happen when least expected. Spend time with your husband, go out for the weekend and spend your time thinking of many things than this.

You will always be in my prayers. Please feel free to write to us and we will give u the much needed support as we endow it to each one of us at our hour of grief.


Loads and loads of baby dust on u and all of us,


Karishma
Sunshine replied. Hi Keerthi,
you have a lovely name. Firstly, though I hate to use this phrase on this board...welcome aboard. I just wish that God never puts you through what so many of us are going through.
Whats good for you is your youth.
You and your husband can try for atleast one year without pressing any anxiety or panic buttons. Please remember, Don't expect anything to happen immediately. Just relax and enjoy the relationship. Be active, that's ok. And well, stress is part and parcel of today's world. However, what u must try to see is that you don't overstress. Try to be relaxed, calm, positive and above all cheerful. Just think as though u'r not trying. Be normal with yourself. It's very easy to get anxious month after month, wondering...\";did it happen???\"; even if you are one day late you might think of trying an HPT...all these things work on your mind and add to stress. That's why u have to be relaxed.
Just one q, were u guys using contraceptives before and what kind?
Becoz if u are on the pill, it usually takes 6 months to one year for the effects of the pill to be out from your body. Keep this in mind.
wish u all the best. Please don't hesitate to ask any questions u might have. As u know the girls on this board are very supportive... Esp. Archie.
Take care,
All the best.
With love, and loads of baby dust your way,
Sunshine
xx