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Role of in-laws:plz plz advice me

2009-05-08

Name: isha Hello!

I am married from 9 yrs and I never stayed with them after few days of marriage, I don' t have that very good relationship with them....( as it never happen bonding relation just hi/ hello)

Now I am visiting first time with my hus and baby and we all going to live few wks in joint family( say more than 12 people and relatives..with old thinking...

Please advice me how to stay there....have good realtion with them...

I would appricate if you all help me...

Thank you.

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2009-05-08

Name: Mel
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Hi Isha

What' s to advise ????

You' re only going to live there for a few weeks. Just be kind to them, and if they ask you to do something, if it' s not unreasonable, do it. It' s a temporary arrangement, so take extra steps to make it an enjoyable time for all of you. They will probably focus on the baby. And at the most, they may give you advice on the baby and on this and that. Just smile, be polite and take everything with a pinch of salt.

If you are uncomfortable... i.e. sleep here, many people are sleeping in the same room, try and ignore as much as you can. Don' t think about it, don' t talk about it. Ignore it, as it is temporary.

I don' t mean that you should bend over backwards, but try and be a bit obliging since it is a short term arrangement.

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