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Dear All... I am in need of help from you all. My daughter she is soon going to complete 2 years. From the past one month she started slap on my face for no reason. She continues to slap using all her energy for 20-30 seconds some times it goes for a minute... and even she started to slap her dad but very seldom and immediately she kisses on his cheeks after slapping but she never does this to me even her dad insisted her to do so.... and also she pulls my hair. I used my loving tone to say that this is bad habit... do not do this. If i say this she will do more n more.. even i scold and beat her (with love) and tried to make her understand about her bad habit. But she still likes to do it more and more and moreover she enjoys her act very much.
We are really confused and worried about her behaviour.
She does this act even outside... this is really embarrassing to both of us. I used all my tactics to control her action.... but nothing is working out so far. Other than that she is ok.

I do agree that some kids are aggressive and do all those things but she is doing it very often and slaps, pulls hair... very often and very long. She won't listen to us

Please someone help me out to solve this problem. I am really thankful to you all.
Thanks and regards
Suma Julie replied. Dear Suma and Pratima,
My daughter who is going to be two this month had the same problem. I figured out the reason for it. It was frustration at not being able to get the things done as per her wish. I started being more patient with her.I did the things she wanted me to do. It gave her immense satisfaction.
Also time and again, I told her not to slap, pinch etc. and quickly changed the topic of discussion. At times if it would get too bad I just seperated her from me physically. I also told her that if she really wanted to pinch and slap she could do it to her teddy. She did it once or twice to him but felt bad after that.
She has improved a lot.
Hope this helps you too. Pratima replied. Hi sheetal,
The reason I visited this site is because I have the exact problem as you. When I read your prob it is like reading the prob that is distressing me. My daughter seem to be out of control. At school she slapped her father because she did not want to come home. She fights with her brother. Every toy is hers and now everyone is hurting her according to her. We tried spanking, we tried tough love, we are at the point of ignoring her. Whenever she throws her tandrum we ignore her. Extreme cases we put her in the naughty corner. If those don't work we take away a toy from her. We are trying everything. My husband reminded me a few days ago that we are putting too much attention on the kids. Our parents did not give us so much importance so now we are trying this strategy.
I wanted you to know that you are not alone. In this position lots of parents behave like you are alone but all kids have meltdown. Tell yourself it is just a phase and it will pass. In the meanwhile try some of our suggestions. It is a trial and error situation.
Regards
Pratima Sheetal replied. hi,
why dont u try to attract her attention to something else something which she likes to do may a toy or her fav food, fruit. think this is temperory habit she will soon forget it. hope its goes soon
best luck
Sheetal