Planning a Baby  Discussion Forum

Hi,

I had posted here a few days back. Wanted to share the rest of my story and ask ur advice. I am ttc but do not have a good relationship with my husband as he has very high male ego and envies me for everything in which i feel happy. He has physically abused me a few times. Just for the sake of the society and my family i am with him hiding the facts from others. Why i want to conceive is only to get rid of my lonliness and a depression that i feel i have got into. I hope u girls will understand. But i feel i will be doing an injustice to the little one even if i conceive.

I have already been on medication like clomid for quite some time and was quite positive for the results this time. It is my CD18 and i feel very upset and am not sure if i really want a baby. It is a delimma for me. It was just yesterday when my husband hit me very hard on my face for no significant reason and i cud do nothing. I do not want to lose my self-esteem buthave no other option as i am very far from all my dear ones. its 4 yrs of my marriage now and i think its a pretty good time for 2 people to understand each other. Please help me decide if i shd go for a child or not? jiggles68 replied. im sorry about whats going with u and your husband but i just dont think puting a baby into the mix would make things any better do you or you have kids and does he want any at this time what i think youshould do is try to fix whats going on with u and him and see y he is not happy first then try for a kid Rupa replied. Hi,

First of all i like to tell u tht you hve a lot of courage to stand and take all this.

U should listen to ur heart and follow what it says...if u think ur husband is abusing u for no particular reason then u shld stand up and tell him tht its not rite...gone are those days when men can shut our mouth.

U r absolutely rite abt the part where u feel bringing a baby just to get away from ur loneliness is not rite but then again if u think hvng a baby would change ur husband approach towards u and would make him a better person then i think u shld go ahead with it...and this only u can make the decision....anlayse everything u hve gone thru so far and see if u find the answer.

Maybe having a baby mite make ur husband a better person and give all the love and affection u hve always wanted.

Think abt it.

we will pray for u.


Rups