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Hi friends,

Now many of you know me very well. I am living seprately from inlaws since almost 6 months now.
my parents also live in same city.

Now the situation is that My DH is going overseas on business trip for a month at the end of this month, so i will be alone. Now we have decidee & i ahve made up my mind to stay at my place by myself during that time & casually visit parents & inlaws once a week. I am still bit worried about the thought though.
Today my mil said to me to come & stay with them but i waved it of & we were in a gathering so she could not pastere me further. I know i will have to be strong & firm in my decision. I can' t go to stay at my parents place as it may create misunderstanding but i also don' t won' t to go to il' s bcs of my sil. I can' t think of living under same roof with her even for a day.
My DH is asking me to call my mom to stay with me but i can' t be selfish. i mean what will she do the whole day when I am in the office, where as at her place she ahs my brother' s daughter to look after to. I can not ask my mil-fil also to stay for the very same reason as they will get bored at my home when i am not home. we don' t even have TV at home. I can call them or my mom along with the niece to my place for the weekend.
Also one of my friend' s DH recently moved to another city & she will go there after 2 months so she is saying that we will give eachother compony(she has little daughter & her parents also live nearby. She is saying that we can stay over at eachother' s place whenever convinient.

I know you all must be thinking what my real problem is? Its nothing just i need to tackle my mil about my decision of staying alone. Any advice on that is welcome. A replied. Hi,
Its good u r able to think clearly and most above all u have the courage to do what u think is right.
I live with my in laws and although they r loving i feel they r too interfering and dominating..but i somehow try to tackle small issues and be happy with them. I too feel like beieng independent and separate but dont have the courage and heart to be away from them.
You are earning and independent ane also u r being impartial to them and ur parents . Being in the same city its hard to not be with ur parents!! You certainly are not being rude and u r considering and respecting ur in laws i feel . Without further worsening ur relationships with Sil or mil by staying together i guess u have given ample space to eacch of u by living alone. Do keep visitng them and taking care of their needs i.e. ur in laws as well as urs ..u will be a happy wife to ur husband and a contented person.
And as u said being firm and reasonable u can explain to ur mil about not staying there. Yr MIL also must be facing questions from people as to why u r away from that house and especially staying alone without them, thats why she emust be pestering u...
well all the best
Namita replied. i think u know the answere to your question just asking for second thought :) ... ofocurse whtever u r thinking is rt., stay alone visit ur parents on weekends ... dnt let worries hammer u Ritika replied. Just thank her for her offer but tell her firmly that \" I' ll be fine, really.\" Then change the topic.

If she pesters you, then give her half a ear and then at the end of her saying whatever she has to say, just keep saying that you' ll be fine staying by yourself. Just keep repeating that and then hopefully she' ll get tired of it :)

Go and visit your parents, in-laws, friends whomever on the weekends and enjoy yourself. Don' t think too much of what your MIL is thinking.