Parents of Preschoolers  Discussion Forum

Hi everyone. I am a married Punjabi mother from Delhi working in Bangalore. My son is 1.6 years old. Due to my strained relationship with my husband (He is presently in Hyderabad and I was even thinking of divorce at one point of time) I had to take this job in Bangalore thinking that I will have to look after my son, his education upbringing etc. I went to live my parents when my son was 3 months old. When my son was 1 year old, I got this job in Bangalore, but unfortunately had to leave my son with my parents in Delhi. My parents are really supportive and take very good care of my son. Now I am planning to leave my current job and move in with my husband, but I am really confused about my child. Will he be ok with me and husband. Will the baby be able to adjust without my parents. Obviously, my son is really attached with me, but definitely looks upon my parents for most care and comfort. Will it have any psychological effect on my child. Can someone help me in this.. I really feel like crying sometimes.. Really confused.. Clarie replied. Hi i would say if you want to leave your kid in india you can leave him with your parents. However, ask your son as well if he is ok to stay with your parents or else take him with you wherever you go. NN replied. See yes there will be some effect on your child but you will have to try to keep him with you as your parents won't be around for his entire life and you are his parents. Give it a try and see what happens. No name replied. Yes it will be difficult for your child to live without your parents as he has a habit of them for all his things and as they have been the ones stay with him all the time and taking care of him in everything is does. Not real replied. Hello Indian,
So you was worried about the children and you need to think about them before you got divorced because your children future was very important it would effect their life also.Better you take good deicision. Nikki replied. Hi,
I do not know what made you trouble to stay with your husband you thought of divorcing him but after some time you want to stay with your husband. First you maintain clarity what you need exactly and then take decision accordingly to your son, do not deviate father and son. Let him get father's love. ritesh hari replied. Hi! I think you could have your parents stay with you for a while and go for a gradual transition so as to not confuse the child much. Good Luck!