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My son studies in a school where most children come from rich families. We are of average income and dont want to spend too much on his bday in the form of decorations, backpresents etc. my son has been getting very expensive back presents and he wants to give everyone fancy calculators! how do i handle him??? Meghanita Patel replied. yah man give de child what he wants ok?? if he is wanting fi to have a expensive party get what he desires...hand out sean paul cds man...or you if u need more money have sex for money it always works tooteloo s replied. most of the children who are basically from middle class family and going to a rich class school often face the challenge to keep themseles at par with other kids especially when it comes to show offs. kids at tender age do not understand and will find any kind of explanations given to them about the situation unsatisfactory
so the best you can do is to involve him to create his own return gifts every child likes to demonstrate his own creative ability and if it comes in the form of return gifts then what he could ask for more also arrange a game with a prize as an inexpensive calculator that way if your child insistes on giving calculator then let it be to the child who wins the game it will be fun for him as he gets to be the leader in organising and conduting the game and for the other kids too,a creative birthday party will make your child feel more responsible and less demandive and also creative birthday party cut down the expenses and makes the party stand out let him be the incharge of it and you can throw suggestions to him.
ajanta replied. warn him that if he misbehaves then youll change his school. explain to him that he should not behave like a spoilt child. chanda replied. look around the market. im sure youll find many electronic items that are cheap and look jazzy and expensive. Simply tell your child that they are very expensive, or just dont tell him the cost. joma replied. I think your child is in the specific age where his temper tanturms should be controlled. Tell him not to compare himself with other kids. Tell him there is more to life than birthday parties and lavish returngifts. You have to strict now. ray replied. it might be a good idea to create some unique back presents which could be easy on your pocket too. get creative-for eg. you could put together a do it yourself kit. it could be anything-create your own picture frame,or decorate pots.the kids and their parents will enjoy the different gift and most importantly your child will realise that the best things in life are not always the most expensive.
P.S.- you could check out some craft or kiddies sites for ideas! Tara replied. If you don t tel; him what s right and wrong f rom now then it will be too late later. tech him from now wht is right or wrong. sue replied. Dont spare the rod and spoil the child. As parents, its time we sit down and explain to our children the facts of life and that everyone cannot fit into the same shoes. It is we who have to be able to explain and control our children. I know its difficult but its got to be done. Dont give in so easily and most importantly dont let your child be aware of your weakness of giving in. All the best. sangeetha replied. i have a son whos 8yrs.old.he studies in a good school and his teachers are happy with his performance.but at home he is very restless.he cant sit and concentrate on anything for long.i find it very difficult to make him study.he argues with me all the time,and unless i take a rod,he will not do his work.i find myself loosing my temper more often.also he is very aggressive towards his younger brother. VJ replied. I have a son of 4 year old, we do celebrate his birthday party but with a great difference, we buy a good cake and some simple gifts for children and take our son to the nearby orphanage, our son is very happy to celebrate his Bday there and we always tell him how difficult life is for those children there who have no parents to care them. Our sons heartgoes on with them and he loves to share his old clothes and old toy with those kids. If you could make your kids understand from early childhood itself that there are lots of people around us who cannot afford to eat a mouth ful of food. I am very statisfied and happy that my son understand all these and he never insist on expensive gifts etc.. wheverI go to super market etc.. If he asks for something we tell him that we may not be able to afford the same and Mom will make some nice gift for you at home and you can take it to your school and show your friends. Even though we do buy expensive gifts for him he still loves to create new things and loves to paste small pieces of colour paper and make house, ship etc.. you can try this out with your kids as well. vj replied. Dear Sangeetha,

vj replied. Dear Sangeetha,

Pl discuss your problem with his school teacher probably they can defenitely help you come out of the problem, if he is good at school why not at home? Probably the way we handle the kid is wrong and more over he may be in need of more attention from both of you parents. He feels that his younger brother is given more attention and he negelected and everyone scholds him etc.. Just be sympathetic with your little darling, just be more considerate and encourage his little achievements and you can see the wonderful change that your son going to have. You may encourge him to watch useful programme in TV like Discovery Channel, National Geographic Channel etc, and buy books on how to create things, science fiction etc..let him joint the nearby libarary, swimming class, music class, or cricket class etc.. Read nice books for your son and enourage him to solve little problem in the house, take his help in cleaning the house, cooking in the kitchen etc.. Make him responsible to taking care of his little one tell, him that you are going to take care of the little kid and Mama will say very goodif the baby laughs and play with you when mama is busy in the kitchen. Sangeetha I do try all these things with my two kids, So from my experience I can tell you one thing your son is very intelligent only thing is he is getting too bored at home or he feels that he is being bulled. Hope you will see lot of changes in your sons attitude. Good luck