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I really think this is probably the situation that can work for most of the family and might make life much happier for many families.

I really believe that MIL can never be your mother and DIL can never be your daughter and frankly we should not even try to expect that. I have seen this in other cultures and might not be bad idea to look into. That is the daughter' s taking care of her parents.
Given a choice I would gladly take my parents to take care of then my inlaws and I am sure my future bhabhi will be glad to take care of her parents.
Its always women who has to interact more in the house and naturally we will tolerate more of your own parents then inlaws.
The only problem I see if your SIL (Nanad) does not want to take care of her parents that is your inlaws which is what I have in our family. My nanad lives in US does not have to be bothered my inlaws and has expressed very freely that has no intention of helping her parents either. She is a young lady who thinks that Beti dhan paraya and bhaiya is the one who should take care of parents.And that kind of mentality does not help with my idea :-) But very conveniently her husband should not bother with his parents. Donno hatho mein ladoo.In that case I guess there is not much choice.
What do you guys think??
gg replied. i was discuss my experiences ...which may sound funny...but its true i have come across good mil....she is my best friends mother..u know her dil has never gone to her mothers place not even once in 3 yesrs of mrrg..coz she misses her mil so much...they behave like teenage girls ...all the time they are 2gether like a best friends...she has one son now..her first delivery she did with her mil...how much that autny took care of her...like her own daughter...for her 2nd delivery that girls mother came to bambay..she said already people are laughing at us for not doing frst delivery of my daughter let me do this 2nd delivery...they rented a house in mumbai...n she forced her daughter to stay with her...can u believe her baby died..n she blamed her own mother ..she said if my mil wud hv done it this wudnt hv hppnd...
touchwood...they ar e veyr happy...

and what about me...i hv never done so much for my own mother ...that much i have done for my mil..n in laws...
its not true...if my mil gvs work to my sil they dont it ...ultimately i will do that for my mil...
if my mil fall sick...they dont helpe her in any work...
what kind of daughter they are?
i dont agree to what u said....
if u want to take care of ur in laws u can ....after all after mrrg ur husbands parents are ur parents...this is a way it works...
n any mil n fil living with their son in law is still look down upon by the society.... Makarand replied. I think that the whole issue is more of a mindset rather then the actual one. I do agree that no body can replace your own parents but I still believe that the behaviour and social relation binds you more with the people.

FOr Exp.I live with my wife and kids and My mother lives with my youngest brother. My MIL lives with My FIL as their son is also working.I last one year I have faced very tough time due to the serious illness of my wife and as our kids are too young, we need support. To my surprise my MIL and FIL were always ready to support us on the cost of their own works. Though my Mother also helped us a lot but I still feel that my in Laws did a better job. This shows the character of a person and increase his respect in your eyes. I am always ready to help my mother at any moment but probably I will move midnight for my in laws.
I think at this stage more then love, you need affection,care,moral support and relation which is built by good gestures and creating an environment in which every body feels happy.
hi replied. also i think girls need a lot of help physically and emotionally after marriage also. during pregnancies and child birth and also handling home and work together. always need own mother. hi replied. hi rita
i always think about that idea. only excemption is in case of only one kid,if it is the single child or have no daughters mkwe always have to look after our inlaws like our own parents. if it is not the case why this society ended up with an idea like this? i think olden days men were the bread winners for the family and nautarally he has to take care of his parents too. but it is not right at all. ilaws in any case love their dil as their kids. i don' t believe it. they will always love their kids and do what ever for them . in that name they will sometimes show they love dils or do some acts. other than that nothing positive. so i think it is better parents being looked after by daughters. everybody will be happy you know. no inlaw probloems and all. even parents will be more happy with their daughters. but i don' t think a reverse thinking will occur sometime soon. even i have two kids son and daughter and love them both dearly and i am sure i will love my dilsame as my dasughter. still i love to be with my little girl. not because of difference of love. i don' t know why. we are dear friends .