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Today i have hit my 4.5 yrs old very badly.and later i felt so bad that i couldnot control myself from crying. why do i hit at the first place? i lost my temper with that eratic behaviour, and lost control.kid is fine, but i am not.feel like have commited a big sin. tried searching for a helpline in india where i cud call and talk with someone on this, but no help i cud get. I desperately need to change myself toward my kid, i love her a lot, cant stay without her then why i hit her so much??? pls help anyone???? Lavina replied. See no matter what reason you give it is not acceptable to beat a 4 and a half year old kid. You need to bring your anger under control as soon as possible as if you keep hitting you kid he might grow up to hate you. NN replied. You can lose your temper and starting hitting your kid because i don't think any kid will ever do anything to be beaten so badly. There are anger management classes available that can help you a lot managing your anger issues. jiya replied. hi maya i understand your situation but after whatever you done why u cry now , think twice before you do something, so after all this you must join yoga center for your relaxation. ranjana replied. hi maya ji, i m dis agree whatever you do with her, i suggest you to join yoga center and laughter club for your mind relaxation, it surely help you, and healing up from your problem. amandip replied. i m so angry after read this, i have also daughter but i never remove my frustration on her, so what type of mother you are, try to control on your anger. and please dont hit her again.for god sake arya replied. hello, i just shocked to read this, i must say you go to some couselor for this thing, you can tell her whatever going in your mind, so it will helpful for you. dont hit your daughter again. aditi replied. hello maya, i suggest you to make a good friends its beneficial for you, you can share your thinking to them if any thing is troubling you, then you can share to your porlem to your friend.and you feel better so you can control on your anger, and it will not happen again. aman replied. hi maya, its too bad whatever you do, but should do control on anger, for that you can join gym and yoga center too, its all helpful too you. aamna replied. hi maya i shocked to read this that you hit your kid in your anger its too bad, dont remove your frustration on her, stop it, and try to control on your anger.for that you can do meditation cource also. satyam replied. hi maya, i read your problem and i tell you its realy so serious isuue, u should control on your anger for that you be happy whole day, dont think much on any isuue. heena chawla replied. Plz do not show ur anger in front of your kids it's really sounds bad do some yoga wenever anger control your body you drink water do not spoil kids future ... Manah replied. Hi maya,
So you are hitting the kid for every reason do you think it is good one to do but it is not the correct method to deal with the kids.You need to explain to them with love and you must be so kind with kind to them. No Name replied. Hello maya,
First you need to change your nature because you can not control your anger. But she is your kid if you behave in the same way to your kid she will be having some fear to you. So hope you control your anger. vishesh shrivstava replied. I understand your situation! Sometimtes our temper gets the better of us! However cliched it might sound, I am not at all for hitting and by your account, neither are you. Try not to repeat this and try reasoning with the child a lil later .
Ravina Singh replied. people are divided over this issue. We adopt parenting styles from our parents. Abroad, it’s a criminal offense to hit a child, even if one´ s own. Try to reason with your child and make him/ her see the error. Making them understand is the way. Ever wondered how teachers manage so many kids at the same time without getting physical? Manas Nayak replied. The practice of hitting children teaches them to become hitters themselves.The child then feels it is appropriate to mistreat younger or smaller children.Hitting also affects the self esteem of the child so it will be better for you to stop hitting your son. He may have serious problems in future. Neena Mathur replied. I am facing the same problem. i am short tempered. Ia m unable to control my anger. whenever I see some mistakes, I lose my cool and most often my son bears the brunt of my anger. I tried controlling but could not do so. Now the situation is that my son always says that he hates me and I do not love him. Simran Dokania replied. You need to control your anger. When you are angry, you are unable to control it and hit your child. Though you repent later, but your hitting will leave an indelible mark on your kid. She may feel inferior or unloved. I suggest you to take anger management classes to nurture a healthy relationship between you and your child.