Parents of Schoolgoers  Discussion Forum

hi
my hb,me and our little son are living alone here.my iland sil are living in india right now.they are not so good but not really bad.little rude some time and try to dominate on me.but now i'm here and they are far from me and my house.some time me and my hb fight on the issues which was created in india by his mother.same problem he loves me but ithink he love them more then me and yesterday he come to me in kitchen and bent on knees and said that he loves me a lot and expect from me that i stop saying these words that he don't love me.i was immpressed and said that ok if u love me then don't b'day wish ur sister tomorrow.because in his family birthday wish is very important for all of them.they also wish us every time that's why said my hb to not wish her this time so that i can see he can do anything because i'm saying.he said ok i'll not do that.i was very happy.
but other day when half hr left he suddenly ask me to call her on birthday,when i told him abt his promiss then he said he is not going to call if i call them.when i refuse to call them then he call her and wish her.i feel so bad then.he insult me.if he was going to call anyhow then why he promiss with me.
plz advise me.what u think in that? Myna replied.
mdh,

You husband knelt before you and told you he loved you, and you told him to prove it by not wishing his sister on her birthday? Do you realize how bad that sounds? Unless you were trying to be the mean wife in a Hindi movie, I don't see how this could do you any good. Love doesn't mean doing anything your spouse wants. In fact, if my husband were ever to make such a demand of me, I would be furious beyond words.

You might be angry with your in-laws or your sister-in-law. If you had not wanted to wish her, fine. But it was in very bad taste to do what you did. It will not help your husband understand and support you better, it will do the opposite.

If you have problems with your in-laws, you need the support of your husband. If he cannot support you (remember it's easier to love your parents even when they have faults - but it's more difficult to understand and love your in-laws), then assert your right and ignore your in-laws' insults.

But never, ever ask your husband to prove his love this way. mdh replied. hi
my mil has no link with my fil family not even a single person came to her and no contect with phone.that's bother me a lot.but she want that her kids will always be in touch. now u ABC tell me, u are saying that my son will also torture from his wife.....who knows my mil had broken all the relations with her ils and that's why her son is also far from her. ABC replied. Hi! mdh!

I don't understand ur concept of LOVE. A man DO NOT have to leave/treat his family bad when he gets married. Just imagine your little son has a habit of wishing u for every birthday and once he gets married and his wife requests the same STUPID thing, then if your son does not wish you, HOW WILL U FEEL? u are the one having problems with ur sil not ur husband. if u don't want don't wish, don't wish. U are not ur husband boss. u sound like a dictator.

ur husband should ask u not to talk to ur parents if u love him. Let's see how much u love him then????/

I am very happy that u have a SON so that in future however u r torturing ur hubby, he will be tortured too.

Don't loosely use the word LOVE. if u love somebody, U DON'T HURT THEM.