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Role of in-laws:troubling in-laws

2007-07-17

Name: reema my MIL interfere in each and every matter of mine.how to dress ,what to do,how to do etc.pls can anyone suggest me how to deal with her??

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my MIL interfere in each and every matter of mine.how to dress ,what to do,how to do etc.pls can anyone suggest me how to deal with her?? s replied. My MIL is same as urs. She complains about my sarees, the colors i choose to wear and even the clothes I choose for my daughter. I will just ignore them. But it irritates me so much and sometimes i will give her a firm reply. What surprises me is, my skin tone is not fair but good. My MIL skintone is kind of near to blak and she says that red and green colors won' t suite for black people. then i said that no green suites me very well and guess what she has sarees with red and green color and she wares them. She tell me to wear light colors. She won' t stop with me she complains about this stuff to my hubby and since he is a mama' s boy he listens to them. I told him that its none of IL' s issue to tell me what to wear and what not to wear just tell them don' t interfere with my personnel things. Also, MIL doesn' t like the jewellery i buy and most of my relatives like my jewellery desings.

Best thing u can do is to try to ignore there comments and just do whatever u want to do. Then MIL will come to know that u r ignoring her. So won' t argue with her about this but just ignore and do things in ur way. sucha replied. pls donot back answer but at the same time be firm and polite in ur reply so that she realises when and where to interupt SG replied. it wud be better if u wud hv explained ur prob a bit in detail...prob is always mil but situation is always diff.
Better stop replying and talk to point to her.If some sugesstions r worth then take them or else just ignore.
Dont take advise from her in kitchen or household matter.start handling on ur own.Only if its very imp like a fest or something then.
Dont discuss about ur gifts/shopping.. just inform if u think u hv to do
U can even tell her that ' u can mng this situation on ur' politely.
Start doing politely and be quiet as much as possible with her.
SR replied. Just tell her to back off and mind her own business... do not give her proper answers and hopefully she will get the message.

2007-08-25

Name: s
Subject:

we are in the same boat

My MIL is same as urs. She complains about my sarees, the colors i choose to wear and even the clothes I choose for my daughter. I will just ignore them. But it irritates me so much and sometimes i will give her a firm reply. What surprises me is, my skin tone is not fair but good. My MIL skintone is kind of near to blak and she says that red and green colors won' t suite for black people. then i said that no green suites me very well and guess what she has sarees with red and green color and she wares them. She tell me to wear light colors. She won' t stop with me she complains about this stuff to my hubby and since he is a mama' s boy he listens to them. I told him that its none of IL' s issue to tell me what to wear and what not to wear just tell them don' t interfere with my personnel things. Also, MIL doesn' t like the jewellery i buy and most of my relatives like my jewellery desings.

Best thing u can do is to try to ignore there comments and just do whatever u want to do. Then MIL will come to know that u r ignoring her. So won' t argue with her about this but just ignore and do things in ur way.

2007-08-15

Name: sucha
Subject:

pls donot back answer but at the same time be firm and polite in ur reply so that she realises when and where to interupt

2007-07-27

Name: SG
Subject:

it wud be better if u wud hv explained ur prob a bit in detail...prob is always mil but situation is always diff.
Better stop replying and talk to point to her.If some sugesstions r worth then take them or else just ignore.
Dont take advise from her in kitchen or household matter.start handling on ur own.Only if its very imp like a fest or something then.
Dont discuss about ur gifts/shopping.. just inform if u think u hv to do
U can even tell her that ' u can mng this situation on ur' politely.
Start doing politely and be quiet as much as possible with her.

2007-07-18

Name: SR
Subject:

Hi Reema

Just tell her to back off and mind her own business... do not give her proper answers and hopefully she will get the message.

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