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i have been married for 4 years. my mil and me have been close to each other until i gave birth last year. that's when the problems started. first, she started imposing ways on how i should look after my daughter, then asking me to follow the way her daughter looks after her children. then came topics about my daughters colour, what my parents have to for my child and etc.....i also realised that she was not saving up the money my husband gave her monthly. it made me sad and angry. i felt that i had my very own way of looking after my children as i am educated and capable. thank god we dont stay together. finally, i told my husband all this. he was very supportive and understanding. he told me to ignore all negative comments and do what is right as we are a family now. so that's all i did. nowdays, when i am not happy with a comment i tell my mil that it is not right and i don't want to do it her way. i get faces from her or teary eyes but i dont care. i just told myself that it is a sin to cheat, hit or insult old people even though they have been bad to us. god will judge them one day and us too. another sin for me is separating my hubby from his mum. that i wont do. if i dont want to go and visit it is okay but not him. if there is any negative comments made about me by his mother he will tell her back. i believe that no matter what others say about us our husband should always be protactive of us. once we get married our husband is our main priority and for him we are. if we follow this our married and family life will be happy and in peace. SG replied. Gud to know tht ur hubby understand u very rarely it happens.When u donot live in a joint family and ur H supports u its better not to reply back to whatever they say.Do not hurt them and its not cheating as u and hubby very well know tht u r doing gud for ur family.I know after marriage parents should not interfere much but thr r some inlaws like mine who donot tk interest in ur problems until thr is some benefits.