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Role of in-laws:queer behaviour of ILwas

2006-10-14

Name: Princess Hi all,
this is a fix i could not understand. i called my in-laws today to know how they are doing and abt health. they said my BIL has gone out of town with his wife to celebrate their anniversary. i said \";good how much ur son takes care of his wife\";. then ILaws say \";No first thank us bcoz we let them go. you shud also thank us for letting u lv abroad\";.????
i don't understand why shud we thank them. My hubby got a good job here so we relocated.My BIL took out his wife coz its their anniversary, so why shud we thank them.

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2006-12-13

Name: yyyy
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i understand you

Princess you are right. Just learn to ignore such words or learn to reply that \" yes ma, even you are lucky to have d-i-ls like us\" or something to that effect. In my inital years of marriage my m-i-l used to speak such nonsence and I used to loose sleep and fight with my husband. However when my husband questioned them they would manipulate things (such that they came out clean chit). I learnt to back answer them and now life is more bearable (as they are no more). Even I am a working mother with 2 kids. My sincere advise is STAND UP FOR YOURSELF.

2006-10-15

Name: KUNJU LAKSHMI
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YOU MUST THANK THEM

Dear sister,

I am an young mother of 3 children. You also may have children. You know how difficult to bring up a child to his youth stage. We have to suffer a lot to bring them up. You got your husband through marriage and trying to ignore his parents who brought him to this level.

The meaning what they said is \" THEY ARE NOT INTERFERING IN YOUR MATTERS EVEN IF THEY HAVE THE RIGHT TO INVOLVE IN THEIR SONS LIFE\" .

In my opinion these parents are VERY GOOD comparing with my ILS who put their heads in everything except in our sex.

YOUR ILS ARE GREAT & WELL CULTURED PEOPLE, YOU MUST THANK THEM BECAUSE THEY ARE KEEPING AWAY FROM YOUR FAMILY LIFE. (90% PARENTS PUT THEIR HEAD IN SONS/DAUGHTERS LIFE).

If i gave any pain, I am very sorry to say this to you.

2006-10-17

Name: princess
Subject:

fine if u say so

i agree to most of u points but do want to disagree too. they are to the larger extent the type u said who interfere in everything except sex.u wud not understand the relief of my hubby(who's parents they are) and mine after we started lvng alone after 7years of living with them.never hv i mentioned i don't respect them, i do, infact i love them for few good things.interference is a very huge matter which hurts only the one who bears it.
even i hv a kid, even i know how it is. u might not understand my plight.
anyway no hard feelings!

2006-10-14

Name: HH
Subject:

ur inlaws are jealous of u dear!

infact my MIL is also same..

and have a bet they never maro any tana infront of his son bec they dont want to spoil there image
and pechay say bahu ko sunatay rahooo..

simply ignore them
kam ph karo....
and if u talk to them than show them u are annoyed bec of their comment.. ha hon may hi jawab do...
bye
HH

2006-10-14

Name: Princess
Subject:

agree

Hi HH,
true what u say, the worser part is i bought them here for 3 months with me and took care of them really well.
i was so surprised when they said that we shud thank them for this. i wud ask anyone why wud a husband take his loving wife alone for a 2nd honeymoon , to celebrate their love and togetherness right? so why the hell shud we thank the parents for that.

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