Planning a Baby  Discussion Forum

Dear pari
its nice that ur going on a vacation. but if u have just got ur periods ,u still have time to ovulate
please i request u ask archie or some other people on how to use the opk or that clear blue kit.
i think even priya will be able to help u with that.
u still have got few days in ur hands
dont waste this month.
now each month becomes crucial because time is flying out.
USG is sonography which they do internal to track the ovulation cycle. thats what they used to do fro me in india...so i havent used any kits to predict.
but i didnt conceive because of the low count
love sonia pari replied. hi, sonia!!
ok i got ur point!! there were many reasons why i didnt want to try opk this cycle and all of them were purely psychological. but now i guess, i have to overcome them. i talked to hubby and convinced him too!! can u imagine y he was putting off using that method?? he said he wanted us to conceive naturally!!! as if using opk is an unnatural method!! i told him u dont know as yet..how unnatural u may have to be in future!! so il just ask others and get it tomorrow. ok?
and regarding ur sil' s preg, i agree with parul...but i possibly couldnt do it if i were in ur place. i feel u r very courageous to even go to that house. look at me...i left india just to escape that kind of people...if u think u r coward and mean...i wonder wot u think of me!!
im really sorry sonia..but i really think getting out of that place is the best option for u...staying so close to those people who dont understand anything...by now they should have understood how u feel...its obvious...isnt it?
i too feel bad for veena...but i feel worse that we are so helpless in the matter...waiting and waiting endlessly!!
life is so full of tensions...rite now im looking forward to the vacation!! my menses are expected at the same time...so after using opk..if i dont conceive...i may freak out and spoil the whole vacation ...or the vacation may help me overcome that feeling..at least for that time...rite now im hoping for the best!
and hey..wot did u say in ur latest mail about ivf? do they transfer multiple embryos to the body? so is there any chance that more than one embryo gets implanted? does that mean that u may have multiple births? im just asking out of curiosity. ur mail was really informative!
ok then, take care.
lots of love,
pari.
Parul replied. Dear Sonia.

If u feel bad to see ur SIL in pregnency. its just fine , coz u are desperate to have your baby. Its but natural to feel that way. any women who has been ttc for a long time will feel the same, so dun't blame urself for that.
Telling u something from experience, the more u run away from things, the more u'll feel trapped. Ur SIL is family u can't avoid her for a long time. Get that straight that Her pregnency is going to proceed and that too in front of everyone. SO just face it and try n accept it. Its very very toough but it is easier than running away from things .
Relations are delicate. If u avoid her like this she make take it otherwisw, very few people have that tendency to actually feel what the other person is going through , they go by face values.
This mail is straight from heart, coz i have been into similar situations.
Good luck dear !
Parul sonia replied. Pari.....just wanted to write what a coward act i did yesterday.
i went to meet my MIL.In fifteen min time the door bell rang.I thought its my SIL back frm job.
I got terrified at the thought of seeing her.
i just grabed my bag ..jumped to my feet and blurted out that im leaving even before my MIL opened the door.
Its was somebody else any way.
but i insisted im leaving cause it was almost time for SIL to come.
my MIL was stunned. she protested saying i cant leave like that... that i stay iover for diner... but i had to leave frm there...dinner was no way.
Then at night my SIL called to ask abt my health.
I didnt want to speak to he.
after initially hesitance i ended talking very nicely to her.
now she says she wants to chat with me and might come over one of these days.
she was also talkingtalking bt her baby wanting to tell me.
but im afraid i dont want to meet her .i dont want to see her in her pregnancy.

because i might just end up bursting into tears in front of her...and pari i dont want taht to happen.
there is no way i want her to see or feel what im going thru....and that im such a selfish person that i cant accept her pregnancy well!!
i know im acting very mean ,,,,but i try a lot im just not able to come to terms with it.The more i think the more miserable i get
im even now feeling sad for veena....i mean i thought that it should work out for her atleast this time.
but god only knows what destiny holds for us.