Planning a Baby  Discussion Forum

I had my fourth iui and it didn't work out this time as well. Don't know when it is going to happen. Every time doing this and waiting for the results is so painful. I'm feeling so miserable and angry with god. why does he torture us like this. Hate myself and this stupid senseless meaningless life. Deepali replied. Dear Veena,
I feel sorry for what you are going through. I know how it feels. I know that this can be one of the most stressful and painful phase of a woman's life. But can yo slowly start giving it a different thought? You can may be think of an adoption? There are thousands of babies in our country who are waiting for adoptive parents to take them home. It is difficult but not impossible. Do think about this. This will release your tension and the emotional pain and turmoil that you are going through right now. I know of couples who have had biological children after adopting a baby. Dont worry. have faith. sampoorna replied. Hi Veena, saw your message, and felt very bad. If i was there in front of u i would have given u a warm hug. Have hope and be positive towards life. You will have a baby soon. I dont understand these medical terminalogies, but i have seen couples who have tried for long and blessed with babies. Please do not lose hope. Also try chanting vakratunda mahakayah mantra it is very powerful.

God bless,
Sampoorna Parul replied. Veena.

We all in this boaard understand ur pain , frustration and anger.
Dear., Try n keep ur cool and spirits up. Anger won't help you to move ahead and have a lovely baby, Patience will help.
When u'll get pregnent u'll forget all this pain n hardships .
Don't be harsh with urself !

Good luck
Parul ANU replied. Hi Veena,
I can understand that you are really sad. But let me tell you, your life is nither stupid nor senseless. Please don't be dishartened. Ofcourse you are going to have a baby pretty soon. I wish you all the best and I will include you in my prayers everyday for this.But,having kids is not the only happiness in world.Don't be angry with God. Thank Him for everything that you have now. If you go to Women's issues topic, you can see my story. When Iwas pregnant with my first child, I was emotionally tortured by my husband and his family up to the point that I wished I were dead after having my son. Though things are all fine now, my past left a scar on my heart and it still hurts when I think about it. I am telling you this to remove your misconception that only the women who have kids can be happy.
I know it is hard but try not to think about kids too much. I am sure they will come arrive soon in your life. Focus on other good things you have. Be happy for being a wonderful woman that you are. All my best wishes are with you. Take care.
Anu.
sonia replied. Dearest veena,
im feeling so heartbroken for u. i was really think abt u last couple of days.
i dont have any words to say to u.
i know how it makes u angry..with yourself and with the god.
i too feel why is he doing it to us...doesnt he want to see us happy? i dont know ..wish i could.
veena take care of yourself ...be brave as always y r. dont loose hope dear ....i know its difficult thing to do....just keeping up the hope and beieng let down everytime. but maybe someting will be there that will definately work out for u.
lots of hugs
sonai