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Name: Pt

I am a working mom in the US. My son is 27 months old. We just started him on daycare three weeks ago. He goes to the Daycare three days a week and stays home with me for two days that I work from home. He was at home for 6 mths prior to that as my in laws were visiting from India and with a babysitter before that. He has always been a happy and cheerful child. But lately he has become very aggressive. I usually try not to fulfill his demands especially if he is being stubborn or crying for it. But he will shout and scream if we don' t give him something he wants. Or just cry. I try to distract him and sometimes that will work. Whats more concerning to me though is that he gets very angry at times and sometimes he will look directly at me and shout ' no' very intently. I am a very loving parent so I feel very hurt when his anger is directed towards me like that. He got pretty spoilt in my in laws care. They left two weeks ago. In the day care he is pretty quite and disciplined. But at home he is assertive and getting very demanding. Sometimes at public places he will lie down on the floor if we don' t give him something he wants which is very embarrassing. When we visit somebody, he will act naughty as well, which sometimes is cute but other parents get offended if he tries to be aggressive with other kids. I am very concerned about his behaviour. My husband is very short-tempered and impatient. I am afraid he will become like that. Sometimes I spank him out of frustration which I know is wrong and I am trying to work on that. But if try to calmly tell him to do or not to do something or even give him time out, then he will just smile as if it’s a game and not take me seriously. Until I resort to something harsh, like close him in the bathroom for few mins or spank him, he doesn’t listen. I don’t understand how to deal with him. I know first I have to learn to be more patient. My husband and I will argue sometimes because of differences in our parenting views. I have been thinking of giving up work also to be able to spend more time with my son. I don’t know if that’s one of the reason he is turning so stubborn. I just wanted to check if this is a normal behavior for a two year old. How can I make him to be more patient and less demanding.

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