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Hi all, I have a great 1.5 yrs old son who has being going to creche for 5 months now. I have been back to work since 5 months. After the delivery I had quit my job and taking care of the kid.He goes to creche for 5-6 hours everyday . When ever I drop him to creche he cries . Now a days he is aware of the road , so he starts crying on the way itself . So I took a different road , now he is aware of the new road also .He is crying alot and it' s breaking my heart as I have to leave him crying in the arms of the girls in the creche, I generally settle him but as soon as I try to leave he cry' s BIG FAT tears. He settle' s within 10/15 minutes as I phone and he is playing happily.as I am sitting in work missing him like mad :(( I came back to work because I get paid well and I felt that the creche would be good for him to help him mingle with other kids plus I do enjoy my job. But the way I feel today I could jack it all in !! Not that I am going to. I know he is going through seperation anxiety .Does he need a therapist ? S replied. Hi Sweta

Listen to me carefully! Because I am a person who quit 3 EXCELLENT jobs because I could not bear to drop my son at the creche. Actually our sitautions are very very similar. I too quit my job once my son was born and joined back when he was a year old. Found a perfectly good creche(in fact it was for my hubby' s company employees) and everyday my son would cry as though his heart would break. I tried this for about 3 weeks and threw my first job and sat at home. Fast forward by another 4 months and SAME thing happened. I finally found a company which had a creche IN the office premises and I could go and see him whenever I wanted. I still couldnt bear dropping him off there despite the fact that when I peeped in 10 minutes later, he would be happily playing. But by then he was 2+ years old and I HAD to send him to playschool bcos he wasnt learnign ANY social skills. This time I truly didnt have a choice and u knwo what, he did cry. But when he saw that I was not budging, he slowly started changing. His cries slowed down to whimpers and then he finally actually started looking forward to going to school. So the moral of the story is this. No matter how many time you do this, its going to be no easier than the last. You might as well save urself the misery and do it right the first time unlike me. Of course, as Priyanka says, you have to ensure that ur baby is being well taken care of by symapthetic people in the creche. Once you have assured yourself of this fact, I think you should just hang in there and let him come out of the phase. And your son definitely does not need any therapy. All children go thru this. If anything, I think its us moms who need it more than the kids!! All the best and just hang in there and let me know how it goes!!! Priyanka replied. Hello! Have you tried finding out how they treat your kid in the creche? The reason could be that he is not able to adjust with the new people or atmo...