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Hi Ladies,
My son is 2 yrs old, I have been working since he was 3 mths, and today for the first time I am seriously considering stopping work!

I have always felt slightly guilty, but never enough to make me think I should change my plans.
Suddenly, during the past few days there have been SO many incidents which have made me feel like my child is suffering because I am not there for him - e.g. the maid sometimes overfeeding my child, no one else at home is able to understand what my child is asking for, etc.

I am really torn between 2 alternatives -
if I quit (or work part-time), I am afraid of losing my independence. My husband is very controlling & has a violent temper, and for a short while when I was not working, he became even more insulting and violent. I think because he felt like I was powerless and he could take advantage.
So I am scared same thing will happen again
If
On the other hand, If I continue working full time, my child will not get the care he needs

I don' t know what to do, please help!! Working Mom replied. Hi,

I am also a working woman s/w professional(that too for long hours). I understand very much your situation. If your family is financially sound, I would recommend you to take a break for a year or two and then get back to work.
And with regard to your husband' s behaviour to you, with your baby' s arrival he must have changed. If not, talk to him when he behaves in such a way , saying its not fair especially from educated men. If he still behaves like that, just ignore him, do your duties and do not talk to him and he will realize his mistakes
I cannot run my house with my hubby' s salary as he works for a small private firm and need my income. I wish i could quit the job for a few year and give attention to my daughter. I too had my mother working and i can understand how a child feels when the mother has to leave him/her and go to work.

Hope this helps.

Thanks sumedha replied. Dear N,

in working womens life one or the otherday a situation comes were u feel like leaving job,but think once again bfore taking any decision.

financial independence is very imp for us and our children also,dont feel guilty,u r not doing anything wrong,even parents r there who r working wen child is 1 month old leaving to maids
In u r case u can give some friendly instructions to ur maid so that she can take care of u r son with more love in ur absence,and regading his food necessities he is too younger and we will not be there with him for the day so we may not understand
u can also consider of putting him in nearby creche so that he can enjoy same age children,but never think of leaving the job,dont forget\" WHERE THERE IS A WILL THERE IS A WAY\"
Hope my sugeestion help u
ALLTHE BEST
Sumedha