hi,i am new to this site and found this site very interesting and informative.i am trying for a second child since last 3 cycles but i am not successful.i am 32 years old and have a son who is 81/2 years old ie.i concieved him when i was 23 years old.since so many yrs.we did not want a second one so we were just taking precautions by removing out or by using condom i have never taken pills or had any operation.3 mnts back when we decided to have another i thought it will happen as soon as we will have unprotected sex-and we did the act in my fertile periods only but was disspointed when i didn't get any news since last 3 cycles.i was 56 kgs when concieved my son and now i am 75.is that the factor or is age the factor or is it because so many yrs have gone it will take some more time to become pregnant again?can somebody please comment on this?my cycle since last 4 mnts is like this-30,25,30,25 so this time i am expecting after 30 days and today is 12th day of my cycle ofcourse i started to concive from 9th day onwards and i think as it is mentioned in some sites that alternate days r much better during fertile days but i did same thing in my previous cycles but did not get good news.anyway praying GODeveryday to give a cute little sister for my son.
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hi,i am new to this site and found this site very interesting and informative.i am trying for a second child since last 3 cycles but i am not successful.i am 32 years old and have a son who is 81/2 years old ie.i concieved him when i was 23 years old.since so many yrs.we did not want a second one so we were just taking precautions by removing out or by using condom i have never taken pills or had any operation.3 mnts back when we decided to have another i thought it will happen as soon as we will have unprotected sex-and we did the act in my fertile periods only but was disspointed when i didn't get any news since last 3 cycles.i was 56 kgs when concieved my son and now i am 75.is that the factor or is age the factor or is it because so many yrs have gone it will take some more time to become pregnant again?can somebody please comment on this?my cycle since last 4 mnts is like this-30,25,30,25 so this time i am expecting after 30 days and today is 12th day of my cycle ofcourse i started to concive from 9th day onwards and i think as it is mentioned in some sites that alternate days r much better during fertile days but i did same thing in my previous cycles but did not get good news.anyway praying GODeveryday to give a cute little sister for my son.
emly replied. I'm very worried about you. That you face trouble in TTC. But the good thing is that you are already a mother of a boy. I think the main problem behind this is your birth control pills. Usually, the birth control pill is the main reason for overweight. Firstly, you should have to lose your weight. If you really want to become a mother again. You take a healthy diet like fruit and vegetables. You have to avoid oily food. When you will lose your weight, Then it will be easy for you to conceive again. I wish your son will become brother soon. Best of luck.
NP replied. sorry, it should be neena, i was tinking something else, that's why
i apolozise for that
NP replied. Hello
Cross your fingers & pray to god
It's all in his hands...
He will give you when you don't want it, & he will also give you when you want it.
I wish you good luck, & hope you miss your period this time.
Take care
bye
NP replied. Hello Neena,
Well if it goes like 25-30-25-30 since you have been to oman, then go with that one....i wish you have started having intercourse since november started...& keep go on for 2-3 days...as you wish for 30 days this time...well if you haven't missed any of your periods then, you are not pregnant. have you went to gyn?
& there is no problem in having an unplanned pregnancy..look at me, i just got married before 2 and half months ago, & i am pregnant of almost 2 weeks. & as you said, were using condoms.....were your husband was taking condoms, or you both were..have you taken any birth control pills. Or ever you ever pregnant between those 8 years...sorry if i am being too personal...
try couple of months since you are trying for 4 months...& yes, that's true what ever god wishes, it sure will be good...
Good luck
bye
take care
NP replied. Hello Neena,
I can understand what you are going through, & you don't want too much gap between your childrens...
Well i have a question, did you had your periods of 25-30-25-30, when you were in dubai, or when you were not in dubai...
next time try this way, have intercourse for aleast a week if possible, i know it's hard for you noth, if you are working & get stressed...but if you can do that, then sure try for it...& you can also go for alternate days...try having intercourse around lets assume at 25 days so try from 11th to 18th day...if 30 then try from 12th to 20th...that might help you...
Or it might be, that your husband has low sperm...did you get any tests done until now? or are you going to any doctor/gyn...?
Well try doing that this period, and/or have you miss any of your periods until now? or during your periods do you have cramping?
well i have to go, my husband just got back, i wish you will start loosing your weight & try not to eat much food which contains fat in it...
let me know if you have any questions regarding this...& if you don't wish to say it, let me know, i can do something else too.
Bye
Take care
NP replied. Hello Neena
How are you?
How's gym & walking going on?
Hope hope you are fine...
did you found out anything...& did you tried on your 14th day...
I hope you are doing fine
don't overstress
bye, take good care of yourself & your husband too
NP replied. Thanks for you lovely complement. & keep that up. going to gym & walking & things like that, if possible don't eat a whole lot of dairy products which contains much fat....
It would be good for your health.
& i am in florida-usa....was in Los angeles_California abefore marriage.
& yes, do keep faith & god & enjoy your life
Best complement
Neha
NP replied. My ful name is Neha Patel
& i am from USA.
I am studing in Medical field, & i found out on monday that i am pregnant, well this is an unplanned child for me & my husband.....
& yes, about you thing, your age does matter some what, & your weight too as sravanthi said...
& she is right about what she said & i agree with her.
I hope you will take good precautions.
Bye
Take care
& yes, i am again telling you...please don't be panic
sravanthi replied. i am little late in reading your message..like u i had my first one within one year of my marriage and it was unplanned and i was 55kgs and 22 and gained lot of weight(90 lbs) and it took me 3 years to get back to 63 kgs and i wanted to have second child like you i thought i will get pragnent in one cycle bit after 10 months i saw a ob/gyn and my tubes and overies are normal. and doc told me that women's reproductive system will start to decline from 27 (i just had my 27 th birthday) and weight will also playa factor and she put me on folic acid and a prenatal vitmin . so we decided we will take some time off from all this baby making stress and i continued my regular 1 hour walks and eating right. to my shock i got pranant next month.so to answer to your question weigt and age are factors even though you had one child.
NP replied. Hello Neena
Sorry, because i wasn't able to comment you well yesturday as i was in hurry.....
Well try with OPK & have you concern to any gyn yet...
If not, try to do that....mean while also try pregnany test machine...
Those 3 things will let you know....
well, as i am in hurry again...actually just got married & so i have to go to college & study & all other things keeps me busy
sorry, if you have any other questions let me know
Bye
take care
& most important part is don't be panic
NP replied. Hello Neena
Well i think you should still trying doing with OPK and keep track of your period....as you hope the next one will be on the interval of 30 days....try having intercourse & i know you are....That might help...& right now alternate days are good...but when it's 13, 14, 16 & 17th day of your ovulution...try haveing most on those days..it would really help.
& i you would get what you want.
sorry, i am in little hurry..so i am nost able to expaling you well
but i'll go through you message once again & will let you know
Bye....& don't be panic
take care
2018-08-16
#1
Name: emly Subject: RE:trying for a girl
I'm very worried about you. That you face trouble in TTC. But the good thing is that you are already a mother of a boy. I think the main problem behind this is your birth control pills. Usually, the birth control pill is the main reason for overweight. Firstly, you should have to lose your weight. If you really want to become a mother again. You take a healthy diet like fruit and vegetables. You have to avoid oily food. When you will lose your weight, Then it will be easy for you to conceive again. I wish your son will become brother soon. Best of luck.
2004-11-07
#2
Name: NP Subject: Sorry
sorry, it should be neena, i was tinking something else, that's why
i apolozise for that
2004-11-07
#3
Name: NP Subject: Unknown&Unlucky
Hello
Cross your fingers & pray to god
It's all in his hands...
He will give you when you don't want it, & he will also give you when you want it.
I wish you good luck, & hope you miss your period this time.
Take care
bye
2004-11-06
#4
Name: NP Subject: Neena
Hello Neena,
Well if it goes like 25-30-25-30 since you have been to oman, then go with that one....i wish you have started having intercourse since november started...& keep go on for 2-3 days...as you wish for 30 days this time...well if you haven't missed any of your periods then, you are not pregnant. have you went to gyn?
& there is no problem in having an unplanned pregnancy..look at me, i just got married before 2 and half months ago, & i am pregnant of almost 2 weeks. & as you said, were using condoms.....were your husband was taking condoms, or you both were..have you taken any birth control pills. Or ever you ever pregnant between those 8 years...sorry if i am being too personal...
try couple of months since you are trying for 4 months...& yes, that's true what ever god wishes, it sure will be good...
Good luck
bye
take care
2004-11-07
#5
Name: neena Subject: re
hi,no i have never taken birth pills nor have put anything inside and in these so many yrs have taken too much care of not becoming by using removing out method or my hubby using condom therefore have not become pregnant in these 8 yrs.still periods not come waiting for them of course i know i am not pregnant but have 1%hope that period should not come as this time clearly i saw cervical mucus during my fertile days and then did but then also no results.lets see what happens.bye and take care.
2004-11-05
#6
Name: NP Subject: Neena
Hello Neena,
I can understand what you are going through, & you don't want too much gap between your childrens...
Well i have a question, did you had your periods of 25-30-25-30, when you were in dubai, or when you were not in dubai...
next time try this way, have intercourse for aleast a week if possible, i know it's hard for you noth, if you are working & get stressed...but if you can do that, then sure try for it...& you can also go for alternate days...try having intercourse around lets assume at 25 days so try from 11th to 18th day...if 30 then try from 12th to 20th...that might help you...
Or it might be, that your husband has low sperm...did you get any tests done until now? or are you going to any doctor/gyn...?
Well try doing that this period, and/or have you miss any of your periods until now? or during your periods do you have cramping?
well i have to go, my husband just got back, i wish you will start loosing your weight & try not to eat much food which contains fat in it...
let me know if you have any questions regarding this...& if you don't wish to say it, let me know, i can do something else too.
Bye
Take care
2004-11-06
#7
Name: neena Subject: np
hi,neha,no i have developed this cycle of 30,25,30,25 after coming to oman before 4 mnts.before that when i was in dubai since jan-june i remember it was bet. 25-27 days,never 30.my last cycle was for 25 days so this time i am expecting after 30.my 1st day of last menstrual cycle was 11th oct,and in this mnt.i conceived on following days--20,21,22,24,and25th oct and today did home pregnancy test which again came negative and that's why i am upset today so now i am expecting my periods on 10 oct if 30 days cycle.yes i do get pain 1st to days of my cycle and no i have not missed my periods uptill now.they r very regular.and about my husband's sperm count i don't think there is any problem he is also quite healthy and as i told u before my 1st pregnancy was unplanned and i got pregnant just in 61/2mnts.after our marriage.all these yrs.were taking precaution just by using condom or removing out thinking if any mistake happens i will get pregnant, now when i want since last 4 mnts when i could convince my husband (as he was saying no only for 2nd)it is not happening or may be will take some more time i hope......what ever GOD wishes,it will always happen for good.thnks for ur concern.bye and take care.
2004-11-03
#8
Name: NP Subject: Neena
Hello Neena
How are you?
How's gym & walking going on?
Hope hope you are fine...
did you found out anything...& did you tried on your 14th day...
I hope you are doing fine
don't overstress
bye, take good care of yourself & your husband too
2004-11-05
#9
Name: neena Subject: hi
hi,neha how r u? yes i did on day 9th,10th,11th,14th and 15th.this time i have not tested as every time i do and get very upset now today is my 25th day still periods not come as i had mentioned earlier isince last 4 mnts i get 30,25,30,25 so may be this time i might get after 30 days i hope i get news this time is there something wrong with my cycle.is it because of change in place as i had told u i just came from dubai 4 mnts back in dubai from jan 2004 i remeber i used to get in between 25-27 days never 30 i dont know what is happening.any way i am doing walks and exercise but it is not effecting my weight still it is the same and i am getting worried as my son is growing he is already 81/2 then gap will be too much my husband said we will try 1 or 2 mnts still and leave it i am confused dont know what to do?ok bye.
2004-10-28
#10
Name: NP Subject: Neena
Thanks for you lovely complement. & keep that up. going to gym & walking & things like that, if possible don't eat a whole lot of dairy products which contains much fat....
It would be good for your health.
& i am in florida-usa....was in Los angeles_California abefore marriage.
& yes, do keep faith & god & enjoy your life
Best complement
Neha
2004-10-27
#11
Name: NP Subject: Neena
My ful name is Neha Patel
& i am from USA.
I am studing in Medical field, & i found out on monday that i am pregnant, well this is an unplanned child for me & my husband.....
& yes, about you thing, your age does matter some what, & your weight too as sravanthi said...
& she is right about what she said & i agree with her.
I hope you will take good precautions.
Bye
Take care
& yes, i am again telling you...please don't be panic
2004-10-27
#12
Name: neena Subject: thks
thnks,again for ur comment and i have already started doing gym. exercises as we have joined gym just last wk.i also do swimming some times and walking also for 1/2 to 1 hr.lets see what happens.my fingers r crossed.thank-u for ur concern and telling me not to panic.i am from oman-muscat.since last 3 mnts we shifted here before that we were in dubai for 41/2 yrs and my parents are there in usa in new-york.actually even i was there for 3 yrs before my marriage then got married in inaid-mumbai and now in gulf.anyway congratulations for ur good news and i wish u all the best and take care of ur health.i will keep faith in god whatever he wishes will happen for good only.
2004-10-26
#13
Name: sravanthi Subject: u r right
i am little late in reading your message..like u i had my first one within one year of my marriage and it was unplanned and i was 55kgs and 22 and gained lot of weight(90 lbs) and it took me 3 years to get back to 63 kgs and i wanted to have second child like you i thought i will get pragnent in one cycle bit after 10 months i saw a ob/gyn and my tubes and overies are normal. and doc told me that women's reproductive system will start to decline from 27 (i just had my 27 th birthday) and weight will also playa factor and she put me on folic acid and a prenatal vitmin . so we decided we will take some time off from all this baby making stress and i continued my regular 1 hour walks and eating right. to my shock i got pranant next month.so to answer to your question weigt and age are factors even though you had one child.
2004-10-27
#14
Name: neena Subject: thnks.
thnks.,for ur advise and as i told neha also i have started taking precautions for my weight and am doing exercise and walk then it is in God's hand.the reason why i am in hurry is otherwise the age gap between both will be too much.if i wait to reduce and if this takes 10-12 mnts then age gap will increase.lets see what happens if any news i will let u know.ok bye.
2004-10-25
#15
Name: NP Subject: Hello Neena
Hello Neena
Sorry, because i wasn't able to comment you well yesturday as i was in hurry.....
Well try with OPK & have you concern to any gyn yet...
If not, try to do that....mean while also try pregnany test machine...
Those 3 things will let you know....
well, as i am in hurry again...actually just got married & so i have to go to college & study & all other things keeps me busy
sorry, if you have any other questions let me know
Bye
take care
& most important part is don't be panic
2004-10-25
#16
Name: neena Subject: re
thns. again but during all my cycles when i have tried to become preg. i have used around 2-3 pregnancy tests each cycle and about going to gyn,my husband doesnt feel like he says if it happens well and good otherwise we already have 1 wonderful son which was not at all planned and i just became pregnant in 7 mnts after my marriage.lets see what happens today was my 14 th day i m planning to test this time on 4th nov.what is ur full name and where r u from?
2004-10-24
#17
Name: NP Subject: Neena
Hello Neena
Well i think you should still trying doing with OPK and keep track of your period....as you hope the next one will be on the interval of 30 days....try having intercourse & i know you are....That might help...& right now alternate days are good...but when it's 13, 14, 16 & 17th day of your ovulution...try haveing most on those days..it would really help.
& i you would get what you want.
sorry, i am in little hurry..so i am nost able to expaling you well
but i'll go through you message once again & will let you know
Bye....& don't be panic
take care
2004-10-24
#18
Name: neena Subject: reply
thks,i think for my more details u can refer to waiting to try,in that i have given my full background.
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