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Hi,Please help me what to do.. I have a 10 momths old daughter. I have no help at home so I had sent her to my inlaws who stay in a seperate town. i go and visit her once a month. She has been staying there since she was 5 months old. My inlaws dont want to come and stay with us for various reasons. Should I get her back and put her in creche. or should I keep her there for somemore time. Please advise. Moulli replied. Is anyone staying in Gurgaon? Cn you suggest taht maid is better idea or creche. Kiran replied. HI., Is ur daughter happy with ur In-laws do they take proper attention to her health and growth? If yes then dont worry she is in better hands than in sending her to Creche. if possible increase ur visits to her like weekends. Deepa replied. Hi! Moulli ,
You shuold immediately get ur daughter back and if possible ask ur mom to came n saty with u coz ull miss the most beautiful time of ur babys life ....ull miss seeing her growth....take care Pinju replied. Hi ,
I think its important she stays with you.. because its the most important time for bonding...between mom and baby...
I too have a 10 old daughter.. and currently having a live-out maid at home ...
Though leaving your baby with relatives , wud be the most secure option .. I think its also important to make adjustments in your lifestyle to accomdate the baby.. like getting a good maid .. or adjusting office hours or finding a creche...
I think till the age of 1.5 yrs its best if the baby is kept at home with a reliable maid..
If you can't get a maid , you can think of daycares .. etc.. but it would involve travelling and baby will have to get adjusted to the new place..

Also you have to thoroughly check the background of the maid and her nature etc..

But I have heard that though maids maynot be very sincere , they are generally sincere towards babies..

I know of a maid who used to look after baby really well .. and finally she absconded with 20K from the house..

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ok then
Pinju console replied. To my experiance i will say daycare is the best one.kids of same age get together and play and they learn so many thing really fast.they reach their milestones fast like walking,talking and many other things.intially they may get sick with cold etc.having your kid near give you lots of happiness and satisfaction in parenting than visiting her once a month. S replied. Hi Moulli,

In my opinion, you should get back your daughter with you immediately. There are so many things she's learning to do and understand every day; you should be the one helping her and teaching her. Put her in a creche/arrange for an old faithful maid etc but do not keep her out of your life. I have a 9 month daughter; every day, I feed her breakfast, give her a bath and then leave for office; at night she will not sleep without me; there are so many things she knows and depends on me for. How can you afford to miss all this? By the way, I am also looking for a good creche and debating whether a maid would be better; but keeping her apart ? That's impossible...

Hope this helps a bit.

Best Wishes