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Hi, I am feeling very sad today. Yesterday, I had a very bad fight with my husband.. I have 9 to 6 job and live in a joint family. We have recently shifted to a new house.
For last many days, I am persuading my MIL and husband on keeping the existing servant for Washing cloths (as we had one in the old house). But she wants me to wash cloths on Weekly and on her insistance. I have told my husband that don't find that much time to wash cloths on a single holiday (Sunday), so keep a servant and I will give her the money.
My MIL and FIL are quite interfering and want to engage me in some activity especially on Sunday so that my husband and I could not even sit with each other. I have gone through this phase in my 1 year of marriage. But now when I got to know about their intentions, I am fighting with it but not directly just saving myself. But u see there is no end to their things.
For last 2 weeks my MIL washes cloths for us (she is a house wife). She says I will not keep a servant for next 1-2 months.
Yesterday, on reaching home from office, I found that all my washed white cloths have turned pale yellow. Firstly, I thought may be some cloth has done this, but to my surprise, no one else cloths have been effected, I checked even white cloths of my husband and my MIL FIL. When I checked with my MIL as what has happened to them. She said one of my kurta has de-colourised. But I knew that kurta doesn't give any colour and told her. Then she told me that may be ur new jeans has done it. But then we always wash trousers in the last and ALL WHITE cloths are washed after the white shirts in the washing machines. I realized that she is lying and has done it intentionally. I have recently bought those cloths.
When I told about the incident to my husband, he said what happened it that has happened and started justifying his mother. I asked him to justify how can only my cloths have been coloured. He has no answer on this and said OK if she is lying just ignore her. We had a argument on this and it turned into a big fight and I slept weeping all the night.
How can he expect me to ignore all their bad things, my lose. But when it comes to his mother father he even notices my small expressions and gives me instructions to serve them. I am really very upset. Any suggestions as I have noticed that my MIL has now started lying to me on many issues. cd replied. Insist on a servant to avoid these petty problems.
You pay if you have to

or move out.

these small issues drain the happiness and enthusiasm of you.

just keep a servant. end of conversation.