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HI,
I have a six year old son.He does not like tl study.I have a tough time making him study.I end up smacking him which makes me feel guilty always.Please tell me how to make my son study without shoouting at him. He is very active otherwise,but stubborn.For any chore I have to make him do I always have to keep forcinghim.Sometimes I lose my patience. Aliyah replied. About the last message, maybe make sure that the pen & pencil work before he sits down. Then sit with him in a quiet place at a set time each day, away from other children & family & distractions, maybe in a library if you have to, and tell him you and he will stay and study till he gets some specific thing that you say done. Encourage him and praise him when he studies or does chores, and let him know that he is a smart boy. This is very normal & you can correct with patience. It is okay to reprimand your son and be firm, but yelling is not effective. He might get scared but next time he'll just do something else bad, or feel frustrated with you. He must understand that you want him to be happy & that he can do well in school if he studies. Read books with him about things he's interested in. Maybe if you have enough money, let him buy a book or magazine he likes, or even a comic book with a lot of writing. And make sure he has somewhere to go when he wants to read or write or do math that's quiet and comfortable with pencils & paper right there so he has no excuse. But don't hit him...it's not your fault you want to, it's easy to be discouraged. Just try to be more positive and so will he. Sree replied. HI! Anuradha,

I have a 5.5ys son. I use to have same problem.
Then I made him sit and spoke to him (he looks up to his Dad).
So I told him if you want to be like Dad you need to read and write.
Than we set a time, everyday we sit and do writing and then at bed time I make him read a story.
While he writes I sit with him and read.
I know its hard as we work. But just try to make it little fun.
I do one more thing I kept point system. If he does his chores he will get points.
That started motivating him.
I hope this will work out for you too. Good Luck.
Please don't smack the kid. He will become more stubborn.