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I recently got married and am from a middle class Jain family. Now few months of my marriage there are a problems popping up in relation between my mother and wife. Wife being from higher middle class family has different way of living. For Ex. My mother says during puja etc (few specific days in the year) girls in periods should not touch things at home or do day to day activities while in all other days there are no such restrictions. My wife being from liberal family does not agree with her thoughts and feels that it restricts her freedom. So my mother suggested that in those days you can stay at your mothers place (being in the same town otherwise also she visits her family once in two weeks and stay there for a day or two) as they don’t follow any such thing. This will not restrict your freedom as well as I can do my religious rituals the way I want. My wife has refused to agree with that. When I supported my mothers idea which I felt was good to maintain the peace of house she fought with me as well.

My mother being a widow from past six years there are very limited options for her to spend time. If my wife continues to do such thing my mother will get frustrated in the life. Guys pls suggest me a way out. Pls remember that both my wife and mother are otherwise doing lot of compromises in their day to day life due to difference in standard of living. Pls don’t suggest me to stay in different house as I don’t intend to split my family at any cost.
Pam replied. u shld post ur prob. in this forum under the head -women' s issues or joint family(both are under relationship) there u will get many replies .I do not think under the heading of occassions u will get many replies .