hello all,
i m a mother of 7 month old girl..we stay as nuclear family..i wanna share as i m upset as to i m unable to cope with raising my daughter all alone..weaning her has become a major problem as she dislikes most of the food..that' s why i m always in the kitchen trying this n that for her..she begins to cry when she is left alone..she doesnt allow me to prepare her baby food..n when i offer her, she spits it out or shuts her mouth tight..i can keep an aaya for her or a full time maid to take care of her but being a mother i m not ready to part with my baby..my hubby helps me out in every possible way..but still all this some times gets on my nerves n i feel like crying..just wanted to share my frustration of being alone..how do u moms who stay as nuclear family manage all this..m really sorry for posting this msg on a wrong board..but here i can get prompt replies..
pls give me some tips n guidance..i would be really greatful megha replied. piyali, don' t worry. many mothers go through this phase. even i went thru the same phase. until 6 months, i had somebody or other to be with me but then i was all alone. had to start weaning my baby, switch him to formula from breastfeeding and i had horrible 2-3 weeks. but don' t lose courage, here r some things that u can do -
get up a little early b4 ur baby wakes and ur hubby leaves for office. hv ur bath and good b' fast that way u will hv strength for rest of the day. once ur baby is awake, u will hv to dedicate all ur time for her. in your kitchen, make a safe place where u can put ur little girl while u work so that she is not left alone.make sure its safe. u can use a small carpet. if she is moving about u can put her in a swing/bouncer/car seat for a while..amuse her with toys and talking to her while u prepare her food. best thing to do at this stage if whatever u cook for the family , offer her the same as baby food eg: mashed rice, dal paani, veg soup etc. cook this say half an hour b4 her meal time. then play with her, take her out for a walk etc..once she gets in a good mood offer her meal. and remember weaning is a long process..initially u hv to start with little quantities. somebody on this board can help u with msg ids related to weaning else..i don' t hv them. but certainly those posts helped me weaning my baby. other thing, does ur daughter take bottle by herself. try to give her milk in the kitchen in front of u to keep her busy while u cook. remember when the baby sleeps, u hv to take rest too...as for me i used to hv my meals when my son used to hv his bottle, sleep when he sleeps, cook when he plays / naps.
good luck ! i am undergoing a diff prb now..managin 2 kids..i will be posting my query soon here :)