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My daughter is my only child.She feel very lonely and thus has started behaving differently.Previously she was a quiet and soft spoken child but now she shouts and shows that she is in bad mood.
What should i do? deepa replied. hi,
talk to her how you feel when she shouts. give a shocked expression and try to tell her you feel bad if she shouts.
I think some stories, moral based, are likely to help her. Buy books, like Jataka tales, tales from Hitopadesha etc. Read it with her,with expressions-this is important-she will eventually realise how the other person feels in different situations-for example, if it says sadly,lower your voice and make a sad face etc.Once in a while tell here stories without looking at the books. One such situation, make up your own story of loving parents and an even more lovable child.A kid in their neighbourhood mother would shout and this little girl would wonder...whatever....at one point emphasise that the daughter wept when mother shouted etc but the mother-daughter love never diminished.....

I have a 5 year old daughter. Was working full time till she was 3 and realised that she was just pampered and pampered by my inlaws. she would shout at them, at me, her food comprised of no veg/no fruits,watch TV serials meant for olders. when i fed her at night she was okay.But I do remember the days when after a tiring day she would just ask me to go-would not even come to me lest I forced her eat fruits/veg or not let her watch tv. After I quit , my focus was not to change her myself but let her learn herself.
Eventually things have changed.Ya!one thing I decided was that one person in the world for whom I live for with zero expectations , would be her.
Now when even if we speak in raised voices, she says it is not the right thing. SHUT UP is the farthest we have gone and that too followed by an apology.she too has realised how it feels to be shouted at.
we also have TIMELIFE books which have a lot of books with morals. this has gone a long way in inculcating good habits.we go regularly to her favourite parks.
She was a TV addict,would shout, not eat,would not at all express her love to me before i quit in 2002.
betwen 2003 till today, touchwood, she loves books,loves asking her spellings ,coloring,has mellowed down comparitively,and when goes to school says- Mom I miss you,its good to be with you etc which are heart rendering.
She watches select programs on POGO - Barnie and friends, Noddy are all based on morals. I sit with her too and tell-so sad no!so nice no!that way she has picked up quite some morals.
So take it easy, play with her. do what she enjoys-goto park,read with her finger pointing out to where we read(with one arm around her)-play at home,ask her to help you do things-boost her up-wow bcoz of you I did it-simple thing like setting table,lifting the veggie basket, anything at all. Show that she really matters to you a lot,overall.
Well!I think Ive written more than I ought to have.
All the very best.
Still if you want to discuss/share more,do write again.
regards
deepa psychologist replied. Give her more company. Play with her some indoor games.