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Everybody,

I was just wondering while I was reading the new friends group thread that some of us are housewives while others work and also have kids:

How do the husband contribute in this situation?

I would wish my husband to help me in the kitchen while I cook or after that cleaning up - but he just doesn't and watches TV all the time

What 'bout a helphing hand if we invite guests- I have my SIL in the same state and so my MIL invites her all the time sometime it is even a surprise to me.... mable replied. Hi bahu!
I do agree with what augustborn and primrose flower said..You really canot except husbands to do so..yea this is true that in indian husband you can find 10 of out 1 person who can come forward to help thier wife on thier won.but not all.Where as i can say, you should tell you husband (pyarse)to give you helping hand.def he will help you..why dont you try asking him once...
As mine was a love marriage and my hubby used to help me with out i asking me.infact he used to even cook for me..But today after 4 years of marriage ,i need to tell him every now and then to do this and that...:-)So dont worry cheer up and give a try telling him ok...

take care and all the best augustborn replied. Hi
In my experience, you need to tell your husband to do a particular chore for you. My husband will do everything I ask him to do...loading the dishwasher, chopping veggies, laying the table..etc BUT only if I ask him...he wont do anything on his own.
So, stop presuming that he will get up from the couch voluntarily to give you a helping hand in the kitchen...darling you must be dreaming...
There surely must be men like that somewhere, though I have not come across them..
So if you will ask, they will do it...

1. ASK them, they will surely do it.
2. Once you have asked them to do something, dont supervise...Let them be. Trust them to do it right.
3. Leave them alone with kids, dont panic...they will know how to take care of them. If they dont, they will learn..dont worry...
4. When guests are at home, ask your husband to help and praise them in front of the guests saying how much your husband helps you out(especially if they are IL's)..hehe..just being catty!

This works for me...how about you...

Cheers! primrose flower replied. Hi Bahu, this is a pretty common problem for indian wives living in usa.the men are just not conditioned that way to help around,but i do think by requesting him he will understand.before u start cooking he can do the chopping part while watching t.v also:)
while in the meantime u can take care of some other work that needs to be done.
i get my hubby dear to help do the dishes.initially i used to try everything on my own,but it was tough coz as u know here in usa,everything on your own literally means that.
hubby does'nt mind now as hez gotten used to it n says itz a good little excercise for him after a big dinner:)
So bahu,ask your hubby occassionally first n then more frequently n later assign one job in the household work to him!
step by step:)