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Role of in-laws:some more thoughts
2005-02-16
Name: vd



Life really seems to be divided between authentic and fictional self. Read out below

Your Authentic Self

Are you living a life that is more in tune with your \";authentic\"; self (who you were created to be) or your \";fictional\"; self (who the world has told you to be)?



Authentic Self

When you're asked, \";Who are you?\"; what is your answer? \";I'm a mom.\"; \";I'm a doctor.\"; \";I live in Ohio.\"; Often the answer is not who you are, but what you do, what your social station is, or how you see your function in life. You can't answer who you are, because you don't know.

There is another level of existence that is the real, true, genuine substance of who you are. It's what is the authentic self.

The authentic self is the you that can be found at your absolute core. It is the part of you not defined by your job, function or role. It is the composite of all your skills, talents and wisdom. It is all of the things that are uniquely yours and need expression, rather than what you believe you are supposed to be and do.

Fictional Self

When you're not living faithfully to your authentic self, you find yourself feeling incomplete, as if there is a hole in your soul. You may have found that it's easier to fill the roles your family and friends expect of you, rather than becoming who you really want to be. Living this way drains you of the critical life energy you need to pursue the things you truly value.

When you live a life that has you ignoring your true gifts and talents while performing assigned or inherited roles instead, you are living as your fictional self.

The fictional self sends you false information about who you are and what you should be doing with your life. It blocks the information you need in order to maintain the connection with your authentic identity. Relying on information from the fictional self means you're putting your trust in a broken compass.

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2005-02-16
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Anonymous Name: augustborn
Subject:  Great thoughts VD



VD am really impressed by the extent of your knowledge and related skills. I am sure you must be a wonderful manager. I hope to benefit from your knowledge and experience...I am on a long vacation here, am Manager-Operations back home. Can you suggest some good readings for me...I have access to the state library here so will be able to get almost any reference you suggest...
Also, had a request...I see that you are a very proactive person who generally posts thought-provoking messages. Could you post a 'thought of the day' message for this board everyday...I am sure everyone will appreciate but ofcourse at your convenience...

Looking forward to hear more from you..

Cheers!
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