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Role of in-laws:I will never be his priority

2005-02-12

Name: Neerja I am so sad . Eversince my marriage I have been always been second priority to my husband . His no1 priority is his parents , his brother .All his loyalties are with them . I and my baby are always second . Its so upsetting . I dont know what to do . I thought things will change after I have a baby but its no use .please help me .

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2005-02-14

Name: vd
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be polite

I absolutely understand what you are going through. Tht trouble lies as Indian Women keep husband as the only priority while for them it is not the same. If they are concerned for their wife, they generally go on a guilt ride. Shravan kumar syndrome. Please don't forsake your parents and family. Men are not God.

dear, as august born is saying, talk to him.My suggestion is don't cry, invite him over to a restaurant, just two of you as you are controlled in public. Talk like a mature human being and please show it is a complaint.

If you say I care for you and you dont care for me, it is not going to work out. Instead tell him that i will feel nice if you show some affection towards me. Tell him you want a gift on valentine's day.

i am trying to be diplomatic now in way i complain. THis is important. Try out. And praise is a big tool. Very person in this world likes to be appreciated.

All the best and dont expect much from relations.

2005-02-14

Name: augustborn
Subject:

Keep the faith

Hi Neerja
As Anne said try talking to him....
Dear you have not given any details why you feel like that. Maybe, if you could be more explicit, we would be able to gauge what you are going through and could give you support accordingly...
Keep the faith...

2005-02-14

Name: Anne
Subject:

Try talking

Try talking to him. I'm sure you placed him first in yr life and he shd do the same, if not balance ii.....

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