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I read all your messages here..Its so nice to read experiences and that I am not alone here feeling like this..
Yes, Here infrastucture is good and you can have a comfortable lifestyle but it all comes with great deal of hard work and planning. And when we come here people think that we are in heavan and because we are earning in $$$ we have to fulfill all their demands (fair or unfair) Also, life here gets lonely sometimes, specially for us girls who come here leaving all our friends, family and relatoves back home. I don't know about working girls but stay home wives like me have a hard time spending whole day alone. Its true that we have TV, internet, phones and can be in touch with our family and friends and be entertained but sometimes this whole routine life becomes so boring..
I miss chatting up on the patio woth my mom and sister in the aftrenoon with a nice cuppa tea, going to all those shopping spree(sometimes even window shopping!!)with my friends..Celebrating all those festivals with so much zeal, eating all that chatpata food...
anyways..when I go India on my Yearly 3 weeks vacation, I am supposed to take gifts fo all those who never even call me /mail me to know my welfare..also I need to call all long distant inlaws and ask them to come in, greet them with all \";phoren\"; perfumes, cosmetics, toileteries and what not..And in between if I want to call my old friends, relatives or even family, I have to take permission of my MIL! And I am only allowed to stay with myparents for a fraction of my entire vacation because all other time I have to be an idea chachi, mami, bahu, bhabhi..But I can't be a ideal daughter, sister or friend..
I am feeling very lonely now..I never used to feel so low and blue..I am a positive person (well most of the time) but sometimes it just gets me..Thankfully I have a loving husband but he is also busy these days as he has touring job..So here I am alone in my 4 bedroom house, with all modern day luxuries, sitting on my stupid PC looking for the gifts from victoria seceret as demande my unmarried SIL in India!! As you must have guessed it..I need to pay and ship those to her because I am earning in $$$ and have to be an ideal bahu! OhWell replied. Sorry Geetika don't mean to offend you and august born your cool. You sure help to ease out things.

My view is if you don't want to be an ideal bahu why pretend to be one ? Either be one or don't and there will be no frustration. Frustration comes only when we try to be something which we are not....
I know life in the US is not a bed of roses but we chose it and so it must definitely be better. You get some, some you don't. And a lot of things that we are supposed to do are often wrong assumptions on our part. E.g don't take any gifts for people just go with an open mind without judging and making assumptions and it will still be the same. Don't think that you are someone superior as you are from the US. Tell your inlaws that you would like to stay longer with your parents and most of the times they will agree. My two cents are that most times we preassume and torture ourselves. Most of these are our own creations and the only way the help us are by keeping us and our minds occupied :). Helps kill time when you are bored and lonely-Right?
Sorry but let go and try to be free from these self bondages... augustborn replied.
Oh you made me nostalgic...
chai on the balcony...pani-puri...chat...shopping...holi...sigh
Yes it gets quite lonely here yaar but I guess we just have to brave that...
Cheer up Geetika, these bouts of depression happen to all of us.Infact, as a woman you are entitled to have them once in a while :)
Do you enjoy reading humour...I myself love P.G. Wodehouse. If you havent read any of his books, try his 'Blandings Castle' series. Its hilarious. It helps me get back my spirits when I am left alone at home(which is very often)...:)
BTW howz your search for VS going on, kuch interesting mila kya?
Hey, I have never shipped anything to India before...how much does it cost yaar...

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