Are you pushover parent? If yes, you need to break this habit at the earliest as it can have negative effects on the development of your child. Read on to learn more about the harmful effects of being a pushover parent.
Yes, you love your child and it breaks your heart to scold them. Every time they behave badly or act notorious you want to discipline them. You feel being strict with your child will make them love you less. You feel that with time they will mature and learn the errors of their ways. Sadly that never happens.
Childhood is the most formative age and unless you discipline your child now, they will never learn discipline. Being a pushover parent has negative impact on your child and your relationship. Here are some of the effects.
1. Lack of Seriousness
At times, you need to put your foot down and let your child know who the boss is. But if you are a pushover parent, chances are your child has never realized that your authority is higher. A common scenario in the house might be that your child is screaming for some toy that is unnecessary.
You might refuse at first but after a long session of whining and crying and yelling you cannot resist and you end up buying it for your child. If such situations continue there will come a time when your child will take your refusal as a joke. Your warning and threats will fall on deaf ears because your child will consider them empty.
2. Behaviour Troubles
Every time you feel too bad about scolding your child for their bad behaviour, they get more indulgence. Being a pushover parent you give in to their demands and tolerate their rudeness. This only encourages your child to behave badly because they never realize that what they are doing is bad and unwanted. They start behaving the same with others and are disliked.
3. Clashing Parenting Attitudes
In most cases it so happens that if one is a pushover parent the other is strict. This can lead to a bad situation. Your child will start seeing the strict parents as bad and develop hateful feelings for them. They see that one is being indulgent while the other is scolding them. They tend to argue and detest the other parent which is not healthy.
4. Permanent Cycle
If you have been a pushover parent from the beginning it is extremely tough to break this habit of yours. No matter how hard you try you tend to go soft when your child cries. Your child will by then have developed a very bad behaviour but no matter how much you try you are unable to fix it. If you try to discipline them they start disobeying and ignoring you. They have never understood threats or warnings, good and bad, right and wrong. They are unable to realize their faults and develop stubborn and adamant behaviours.
5. Lack of Responsibility
The most common thing about pushover parents is that they do not make their children understand the need to be responsible. They feel that their little kids do not need to take any responsibility just yet and keep them burden free. By the time pushover parents realize the folly of their ways it is generally too late. Your child does not want to take responsibility for anything, be it at home or in class. They expect everything to be served to them with a silver spoon.
If you happen to be a pushover parent, it is high time you make amends. Your nature can be taxing to your child’s future. One day your child will blame you for the consequences. Cooperate with your spouse and develop a plan of action as to how to restore discipline in the house.
Which are the common characteristics of pushover parents? How to avoid being a pushover parent? What are the effects of being a pushover parent? Discuss here.
Sorry. Due to our site's regulations and policies, your message has not been posted. Our moderating team has been notified about your message. If the message is found to be genuine and still did not get posted, you may not post the message again as it will automatically get posted for you within 24hrs time (excluding weekends).
- The Indiaparenting Team