Are you aware of how your children feel
when you act in a particular manner? Read on to find about how children feel in
Hundreds of children are fulfilling every
single act assigned to them, whether by force or by habit every day. Moms and
dads will anyway convince the child that she or he has taken it by choice
because actually she or he does not have any choice. So now it is a turn to ask
them back; ‘’Do you know how your child feels?’’ Let us try to find out the
Most of the times, parents force kids to do
good in every subject and thus quite unknowingly force them to start hating
even those subjects in which they could have found interest. The
disillusionment for the parents
born out of sheer competition in childhood gets coupled in their teenage. But
remember, before complaining about these, the seed has been lying somewhere in
the roots of the past.
Have you ever thought ‘How does it matter
if my child draws something silly with a pen on the last page of an exercise
book and not with brushes on an art paper?’- ‘Why should I mind if my child
only plays ‘’Para cricket’’ instead of net practice if she gets fun in it?’ NO,
never. What we are to do is just push her into the chains of a system. And when
this system will produce none but another machine, we will complaint again. But
how come they come up with different ideas when the potential of an individual
have been nipped in buds?
Feelings Within the Family
There are children, who love the company of
others, be it friends or family members. And there are people who are just love
spending time with themselves. Both are normal in their own ways. But the
problem crops up when the parents insist to join them or pretend to be friendly.
This anyway spoils the child’s privacy and again the anxiety
regarding space arises. So why not let them find their own company? After all
‘society’, in a way, means a ‘circle’ where one feels
comfortable in several senses.
Victim of Parents’ Problems
If you are careful enough as a parent, you
will certainly notice your stress level being reflected in your child’s eyes.
And you remember your childhood days? How you felt glad to see your parents
live a happy life? All children are like that. So even if it is almost
impossible to adjust with the other one, at least try to keep things simple,
not over react openly in front of them. It is for their sake only. If you can
keep her out of it, she can be the reason of uniting you two.
Dealing with Tough Times
Bundles of adversities can affect our families
every day, yet often the emotional distress lasts for longer than expected, in
the minds of children. And what matters is how they react to it.
Over -Performers: This group keeps the pain
hidden in the core of their hearts. And in the long run this depression
turns into the competitive need of bigger achievements.
Under-Performers: They are just the opposite;
instead of jumping into the stream of competition they become reluctant about everything,
with no motivation.
Rebels: Their inner state of mind is
usually reflected in their extreme behaviours.
They become rebellions and adopt habits like smoking, drinking, drug addiction
and other violence.
Quite Kids: They are the most disturbed
ones in the sense they keep everything in their minds. These quiet kids become victims
of anxiety, depression and social phobias.
So, try to keep eyes on your child in both
adverse and favourable conditions. ‘Keeping an eye’ means just keeping an eye
and acting like a passive onlooker. And let them be independent. Keep one thing
in mind, that you are nothing more than a catalyst in her life. Let her react
and enjoy the result. You better keep yourself aside but make sure that you
provide guidance on what is right and what is wrong.
Why is it important to know how children
feel? How to make children feel happy and cheerful? How do children feel when
parents yell and shout at them? Discuss