Teach your child how to
make friends by working on his communication skills and encouraging him to
participate in social situations from a young age with our tips here.
When you put your toddler beside another toddler, you will find
that both toddlers are completely engaged in playing on their own, independent
of the other. They are immersed in their own world, mostly ignorant of the
otherâ€™s existence. But as they grow older, they begin to desire friendship and
their need for social interaction begins to develop.
Your 3 or 4
year old preschooler suddenly feels the urge to play and interact with his
peers and is content if he somehow manages to get friends. However, toddlers do
not â€˜knowâ€™ how to make friends, and need to
be taught. If you do not introduce your child to other kids
at a young age, their social skills stay underdeveloped and they turn
irritable, cranky and frustrated.
If you do not
inculcate social skills in your toddler, he will grow up to be a loner and
friendless. You need to encourage him to make and build friendships. Here are
some tips on how you can help your child make friends:
Work on your childâ€™s Communication Skills
Skills are perhaps the most vital skills that one has to learn in life. As
social beings, we need to be able to communicate with ease, and communicate
effectively. As a friend, your child not only needs to feel for his friends,
but also needs to be able to easily demonstrate his empathy, support, and love
to his friends. Encourage your child to show he cares for others by teaching
them to tend to their friends, sharing toys, asking how they feel, etc. If you
care for and demonstrate the above to your friends, your toddler will learn
from your example and demonstrate the same care to his friends as you do to
Encourage your child to participate in your Social Life
When you visit
a relative or a friend or meet people at a social gathering, bring your preschooler along. Children tend to think of their parents as
their first teachers. Therefore, when they watch you interacting and
communicating with people, they get to learn a lot from you. They take their
behavioural cues from you and learn the mode of interaction from you as well.
If you greet people warmly and ask about their lives, your child will learn to
do the same with his peers.
Provide Opportunities to Interact With Peers
As a parent,
you need to provide your preschooler with an appropriate peer group. You can
enroll him in a preschool, get together with other parents and their kids, ,
plan outings with relatives and group activities with other children. Putting
your child in social situations from a young age will help him interact with
his peers and behave more comfortable in a variety of social situations in the
Be a Relationship Coach
to your preschoolerâ€™s behaviour when is
playing or interacting with his peers. Although your childâ€™s learns to interact
with other children from observing you, he will implement those methods, albeit
with some trial and error. He will, therefore, require some monitoring and
guidance from you. For instance, you may have to encourage your child to accept
another childâ€™s suggested idea for play, when your child is playing or
participating in a group activity.
Teach Him to Be Respectful Towards All
are a part of communication development. When kids are learning to communicate, it is quite probable that there
would be a lot of misunderstandings. They are primarily caused by the fact that
one is saying something, but actually meaning something different, or one uses
a different term for a certain thing, which the other kid is not aware of,
thereby leading to misunderstandings. Children have a tendency to disassociate
themselves with one another even if there is a small clash. Discourage your
child from making snap judgements about his peer and teach him to be respectful
towards other childrenâ€™s opinions and be open to their ideas.
all other aspects, here too, you can lead through example. Make sure that you
are behaving with dignity and respect when you are communicating with people.
Your child is observing you and taking his cues on what ought to be the ideal
way to behave, interact and communicate from you. If they feel that what you
suggest or teach are different from what you practice, they will get confused
and you will find it difficult to make them follow your directives and
should parents encourage their kids to make friends? How can they help their
little preschooler make friends? What are the benefits of encouraging kids to
make friends at a young age? Discuss here.