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You are here : home > Pregnancy > Related Articles for Pregnancy > Melt away your Postpartum Blues

Melt away your Postpartum Blues


Are you coping with the postpartum blues? Read on to find out what you can do to deal with it.


Regardless of the fact that you wanted this child and are thrilled beyond measure with your wonderful new life together, you will also have the inevitable moments of exasperation, crankiness, doubts about your intelligence and patience, wondering why you ever decided to get into this in the first place. What follows is the RELAX! approach: some quick, down-to-earth tips to help keep you in relatively good psychological health. It is especially important to remember these tips in the fourth trimester - the three months immediately following childbirth.


R - Rest Whenever Possible


In this first week home, take to bed and ask for a meal to be served you there. Let a helper watch the baby while you nap (not while you search for the perfect crib-sheet or do errands). The baby - and those errands - will be yours forever; the offers of assistance will not. Your body has undergone a lot of changes throughout your pregnancy and has also faced rigours of delivery. Therefore, taking rest is a must to help the body recover and heal from the stress of childbirth. Ideally, women are advised to take rest at least for the period of 40 to 45 days.


E - Expect to Feel on an Emotional Roller Coaster

You may feel elated one moment, weepy the next. Exhaustion heightens this dis-equilibrium, which may hit you over the head or creep up on you. All new parents experience this at some point post-childbirth. Remember: you are neither going crazy nor are you a bad parent. This phase will pass away soon and you will feel better by each passing day. So, do not worry. Reading good parenting books can help you a lot to deal with this phase.


L - Let the Feelings Out

Find a friend to talk with about the experience you are having. Another mother, even one with whom you are not especially close, is a good bet: motherhood bonds. You can also talk to your husband as no one can understand you better than him. If that does not ease the tension, think about short-term counselling with someone who has no stake in your "acting nice."


A - Alone Time Each Day Is a Must

Schedule15 minutes each day to remind yourself you are a "you" - take a bath, read, daydream or do whatever you enjoy. Practising meditation can also help you a lot. Meditation is the best way to calm your post-delivery anxieties and depression. With these activities, it is too easy to let yourself slip away in the pleasures and pressures of your new family life, and then resent that.


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- Exit for a Date with Your Spouse

It is tempting to get caught up in the joy of your new family and forget the romance of just you two. Do not. Working, caring for baby, helping each other out are wearing as well as fulfilling; you need to spend time alone nurturing your marriage. Have an intimate dinner, play a game, take a long stroll - just schedule some "couple time" each week so it would not get lost amidst the other demands on you. It is a must to nurture your relationships as happy couples raise happy and well-balanced children and families.

RELAX!

The importance of relaxing after delivery cannot be overlook at all. Resting and relaxing is extremely necessary to help your body recover faster. So, rest whenever possible, expect to feel on an emotional roller coaster, let the feelings out, alone time is a must, and exit the house on a date with your spouse. And as the time passes, you will notice that it just gets better and better and better...

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anu.7 years ago
i don't have children yet, but whenever i think about having them i wonder what life will be after having them. i know it won't be a bed of roses, but then is motherhood really worth it. i do not mean that i don't want a baby , but i'm curious to know. after reading the practical aspects i ask myself ..do i want this?? or i want a baby b'cos everyone else is having one.
 
 
 
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amanda.7 years ago
hi there, i really enjoy and appriciate the site.
i just wanted to respond to anu's comment. i'm a
new mother now and i am finding it very difficult
even though i am very lucky and have support. i
honestly think if you are having any doubts about
getting pregnant, hold off. even when you are certain
before hand you can find yourself riddled with doubts
in the beginning months and that's a very difficult thing
to come to terms with. it's okay to have doubts, but know
that they are valid and consider holding off until your
sure.
 
 
 
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Radha.7 years ago
hey all that about relaxing during the post partum phase sounds good on the net, but as you know in india, once a baby is born, all you have is hordes of relatives visiting you; monther and mother-in-law competing for the baby and all that so called high fat `pure ghee' food stuff and unlimited and unsolicited advises of bringing up the baby advises from your in-laws who had a child good old thirty one years back. how do you cope up with all this? any suggestions?
 
 
 
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anjali.7 years ago
to radha -
i fully sympathize with you b'cos i know the indian scenario very well. though the advise may be well-meaning sometimes the indians go over the board. try to turn deaf ears when you don't want to listen. there's absolutely no point in reasoning with indian elders as they hardly know abt the likes/dislikes of the younger genearation.
 
 
 
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bhatt.7 years ago
how safe it is to have sex after delivery? what are the risks of getting pregnant again?
 
 
 
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Richa.7 years ago
i often wonder whether i will be a good mother or not. i have always wanted children but now that one is one the way i smetimes feel shaken up thinking of all the responsibilities it entails. i would be physically, emotionally and financially responsible for a living human being and that really overwhelmes me. morever my carrer would be neglected for a few months if not years. how do i cope with all this. any suggestions or comments please?
 
 
 
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Kavitha.7 years ago
well, i am looking forward to motherhood but considering inlaws are going to be here with me during the postpartum time i am dreading whether i shall be relaxed and do not undergo depression. if i think of relaxing or even having few minutes of my husbands time it shall be considered selfish and unmotherlikely.
but i shall try to make myself time to enjoy the baby moments which i have waited long enough.
 
 
 
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Asha.7 years ago
to kavitha - i fully understand and appreciate your concerns about your in-laws during post pregnancy, i've suffered the same. only, this time, i'm pregnant again, and have decided to enjoy my baby and husband, its my life too! i suggest that after spending a month with in-laws and hubby, you spend at least a month with your parents, you deserve happiness too!
 
 
 
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A.G.G..7 years ago
i wish i knew the side effects of postpartum, i thought i was a bad person to my ex-husband. when i had my child at 17, you really don't ask all the questions in the world, and i had postpartum without knowing it. one day i lashed out at my ex-husband and he left me. i tried to explain it, but by that time he found a new love. so, if you have any sympthoms, please get in contact with a doctor immediately.
 
 
 
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teddys mom.7 years ago
too good...

gives us the feeling of our great and happy life...
 
 
 
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