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Being a Good Mother

Will it be love at first sight for the baby and me

Books and films can be quite misleading on this subject. It is not surprising if you do not feel a surge of maternal love when your baby is put into your arms for the first time. Physical closeness between mother and child after birth does not necessarily signify emotional closeness. The new mother's first feeling is usually one of overwhelming relief that the ordeal is over and that she has a normal baby. It is not unnatural for you to feel that your baby is a stranger and to feel little more than neutral towards her. One study has shown that it takes an average of two weeks (and sometimes as long as nine weeks) for a mother to begin to have positive feelings towards her child. 

The reaction of a mother to her newborn will depend on several factors: how long and painful her labour was, how she felt about having the baby, her previous interaction with babies, her relationship with her husband, general health and stress levels, and most importantly, her personality. 

Give yourself and the baby a chance to get acquainted and the love will grow slowly and naturally.

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Name: grethel
Country: Chile

its seldom that a mother does not love her baby. the love grows gradually over a period of time. it is true that a mother feels love for the baby, when it is still in the womb.
 
Name: Rachael
Country: Barbados

motherhood comes naturally to a woman. this feeling develops from the time when the baby is in the womb. when it comes out, the feeling is intense. as you spend time with the baby, the bond grows.
 
Name: Geetha
Country: India

yes it's true,walking is a good exercise,drinking water atleast 2 litres daily(from the beginning)during pregnancy.the main thing is that you should not get tensed be relaxed as you are.if you feel relaxed,the mouth part of the uterus would open freely.this is my story that i had been very distressed at the time of delivery.so i had a caesarian what i expect normal delivery a lot.
 
Name: krishna
Country: India

i am 28 and m planning to conceive next yr..but i get goose bumps and start feeling nervous at the very thought of labour pain..i dont know how will i manage it..
 
Name: nini
Country: Nigeria

i've had two kids and a third one on the way and i can say it will get easier, just take the pains as it comes and u can chicken out by taking epidural.
 
Name: smita
Country: India

hi i am 25 yrs old and had a baby boy 6mths ago....contractions started at 4.30am and it was bad...but i continued with breathing exercises all throughout and there was no need to scream out...pain was very well tolerated..however still i asked for an epidural injection at about 1.00pm and after that wowww it was just too good and i was relaxing...i delivered a healthy baby at 3.25pm....i am also healthy with no back aches as commonly presumed..
 
Name: Dr Rao
Country: Pakistan

now it is wonderful to have a baby in your arms without any labourpains. "great epidural delivery"
 
Name: txwoouayug
Country: Nigeria

cod overnight tramadol
 
Name: Decisions
Country: U.S.A.

after two years of marriage and a successful career , i got pregnant. as my contract expired when i was 5 months pregnant , i quit my job and spent the next two and a half years at home- 4 months of pregnangy + till my son was two . reason i wanted to see him grow. i began flexi work when he was little ober 2 years . thanks to a suppourtive family and coorperative child , i have risen on the career lader . i have no regrets on the decisions that i made and my child is also doing well
 
Name: sindhu
Country: india

hai iam sindu 25yrs old, i have a boy baby, who was born at the weight of 3.75 kgs. it was a outlet delivery. one thing i want to tell for the conceived ladies, please dont be depressed, try to co-operate with deep breathe with full hope for the birth, that's it. nothing else. dont be annoyed. everything should be bearable, even this pain.life is also like that only. thanks
 
Name: Aananthi Rajah
Country: malaysia

i have 2 kids. my advice to reduce pain and to speed up the process is by walking a lot before delivery. too much walking will loose up the cervic muscles and help speed up delivery with less pain.
 
Name: sunsun
Country: india

i think if you take epidural during labor, you don't feel much of pain. it is widely used in many countries , like us , canada, europe.it is pretty safe. in india some hospitals also use that.
 
Name: Jov
Country: india

i had taken an epidural injection for painless delivery 5 years back (2000). i couldnt feel the labour pain only the contractions so delivery was normal and easy. my child was also born healthy. i havent faced any problems after that, i have no backache which generally is a misconception attached to epidural and i am back to my original slim form and fit as a feedle. i am planning to go for a second baby and will definitely go for an epidural again.
 
Name: health detective 911
Country: zambia

to avoid painful labour pains take two dolomite tablets and two bone meal tablets six weeks before delivering. also drink red raspberry tea throughout your pregnancy available at health food stores.
 
Name: Sharan
Country: england

having had 3 very different labours - the best advice on getting through the contractions is deep breaths' and focus on what you will be getting at the end of it - not on the pain.
 
Name: Patricia
Country: other

i have begun to dread the thought of labour and i have five more weeks to go
 
Name: PREETS
Country: india

the article gives you a pleasent feeling and removes tension of labour pain for to be mothers very effectively. it is a very good approach for preparing all to be mothers for that wonderful momemnt in her life.
 
Name: arleen Hernandez
Country: usa

i'm a good mother
 
Name: Radhika
Country: india

very informative article!


 

 
 
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