10 Things You Should Never Say to Childless Couples
If you are an enthusiastic parent, you might not pay attention to what a childless couple feels. Do not say anything that would hurt their feelings. Read on to learn about the 10 things you should never say to childless couples.
Having a child and when to have one is a personal decision for any couple. If your friend is childless, it does not mean that there is some fertility issue or family issue. It is his or her wish or maybe anything else. In any case, it is personal. Also, when talking to childless couples you should be a little careful so that you do not say anything that may hurt them.
Things You Should Never Say to Childless Couples
Here are few things which you should never say to childless couples.
1. “So, when are you guys planning to go family way?”
Regardless of the closeness you have with that person or couple, you should never ask this question. It is possible they are trying or maybe they want to give their relationship some time. Anything is possible.
2. “We always wanted to start our family soon”
When you say this, it clearly indicates that in your opinion couples who have children are family and those who do not have kids are not included in the definition of family. You should know that family includes a long list.
3. “You will understand when you are a mom”
It is true that many things are understood only with experience, but this does not mean that childless couples do not have any idea about dealing with kids. After all siblings, other members of the family having children and kids of friends all come under the definition of family.
4. “You will not understand”
Dealing with a hyperactive child must be quite demanding for you. Never say to a childless mom that she will not understand your problem. It hurts.
5. “Enjoy the time because everything changes after having kids”
Many think that having a kid means the days of love and romance are gone. Well, this does not happen with everyone. And if the couple is going through any problem, this statement will definitely hurt.
6. “I am going to invite only parents”
Childless couples may not always feel isolated or excluded. Even if you have planned to invite your friends who are parents for any occasion, do not avoid childless couples. Do not just ignore them because they are childless.
7. “You are lucky to have a good night’s sleep”
There is no doubt you have to sacrifice your sleep and lot of things because of the small kids. When you call childless couples lucky this conveys the message to them that the reason why they are not having kids is because they are selfish or lazy.
8. “Your parents must be impatient by now”
Every parent wants to have grandchildren, but you should not be presuming. This sounds very disrespectful because you never know what the couple is going through right now. Maybe they are impatient and longing to have a child.
9. “Don’t worry, you will be a great mom”
Why do you assume that just because a couple does not have child, they are afraid of parenthood? It will happen when it has to or maybe according to their plan.
10. “Time is flying”
This is definitely not polite. Your friend or the woman beside you is also aware of her growing age. This is not at all appropriate to point out this and hurt her. Having a baby changes your entire life. But this does not mean that you make rude, impolite and hurting comments to childless couples. Stay away from the above mentioned silly comments and strengthen your friendship with the childless couple. Even if your intention is good, it does not sound polite.
Why do some couples prefer to remain childless? What kind of things should never be said to childless couples? How not to hurt the feelings of childless couples? Discuss here.
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