Families having more than one child face sibling
rivalry often. Most parents find siblings fighting and mark this as a parenting
issue and find this practically impossible to prevent. Read on to learn how you
can end a sibling fight.
If you find
that you are not able to control sibling fight in your home, do not get
disheartened because you are not alone. Most of the time when siblings fight
and parents intervene, the situation gets worse. The main reason is that it
becomes difficult to figure out who started the fight and in that case if you
take sides, the resentment will increase.
Before you learn
about how to end a sibling fight, it is advisable to learn few changes in
yourself that can help you prevent your kids from
The first thing that you need to do is not
lose your temper. Control your emotions and stay calm and try to soothe their
feelings. Seeing you calm in such situation, your children will also learn to
stay calm and hence manage their feelings.
Worry About Who Started the Fight
One of the
biggest mistakes that parents make when they try to intervene in their kidsâ€™
fights is to ask who started the fight. Next time you intervene, do not take
sides and treat them the same.
When you find your kids fighting let
them know that they are violating the homeâ€™s rule because here everyone is
treated with kindness and respect. Tell them screaming and hurting is not
allowed and ask them to work that immediately.
if One of Them is Very Upset
It is good to talk to
your kids when the other one is present, but if you find that one is very
angry, you should separate them temporarily and talk to one at a time. If they
want to play together again, ask them to take a cool off period of 15 minutes
after which they can play if you find house peaceful
Attend to the Child Who is Hurt with
It is ideal to attend to the wound first
when any one of the kids is hurt. Do not pass judgment on who is wrong at that
Call the Kids Together When They Are
Let your children express their feelings and
find out why one got angry. Help them state their feelings and listen to each
otherâ€™s feelings when they are sharing with you.
Tips for Preventing Sibling
There are certain principles
and practices that will help you lessen sibling rivalry. They
Teach your children healthy
Create an atmosphere of
appreciation at home
Always remember that they are just
When you stop sibling fight with calmness and
empathy, your kids will learn eventually to talk and work out misunderstandings
and conflicts themselves. Remember, jealousy is one of the common human
feelings and it will not be taken away by
What are the common causes of
fights between siblings? How to end the sibling fights? How to prevent sibling
rivalry? Discuss here.
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