Planning a Baby  Discussion Forum

Hi all the members,

I am the new member to this forum. I was sad that I didn' t knew about this site before.

We have married since 5years, and trying to conceive since 4 years, but no result yet.

We got married in 2003, after that we stayed in UK for 1 year. Later came back to India and started trying to conceive.but after six months also no result. We then consulted the Ayurvedic Gynecologist. We undergone all the tests. Later came to know, my husband has low sperm count.

Then he started taking Homeopathy medicine from wellknown Dr.B.T.Rudresh. But that was also of no use.

We felt very desperate. He is a software Engineer in Bangalore, now we are in UK, and I am also BE graduate, but now at home.


Then in 2006, as per his friend' s suggestion we consulted IVF specialist(Dr. Madhuri patil, Patil' s fertility clinic, Bannergatta road).

There, the Doctor told, in our case we have to undergo ICSI, that will cost around 1 lakh.It is a type of IVF treatment.

I have undergone two cycles of ICSI, so many blood tests and haromone analysis everything done.

My hysteroscopy reports were normal. In first cycle I got pregnant, but to our badluck, it was ectopic(tubal pregnancy). Then I had to get it removed. In the second cycle, I did not conceive.

That' s the end of our hope with IVF treatment.

Then atlast we decided to stop all the treatments and to adapt a baby. But I still in some corner of my heart, want my own baby.

And I am worried also, can I take care of the adopted baby properly or not. As I have no mother, no support from my family and my relation with my Inlaws is also not good.

When we were thinking of adoption, one of my relative forced me to see the Dr. Leelavathi, Ayurvedic gynaecologist. I was not ready, but my husband told to give a last try.

We went there, and shown all our previous records. She checked everything. Later she tested me and told that I am very much sensitive and I have to relax very much. Since I was not getting on well with my inlaws, I was suffering tension all the time in home.

So my husband planned the UK trip, Dr. prescribed some medicine. We brought all the medicines to UK and started trying for baby. But here due to the medicines or the weather condition, my periods have become irregular. My periods were never irregular before. Later I contacted the Doctor, she told, its due to both medicine and weather condition and not to worry for that. Last month, as per her prescription, I tool Super Fertyl. But this month I got periods again. But some what to my relief it is rerular period. This time I got so much of pain and bleeding is also more.

She prescribed the medicine for 3 months, but now I am worrying to take that medicine again. Thats why I was searching in the google, I got this website.

I am really happy that I can share my feelings with people who are also suffering like me. If we share our feelings with the people, who have kids with first attempt only, they just can' t understand. They will simply ignore.

My husband is more supportive to me. He feels very bad, that because of him I couldn' t conceive. He feels bad, that he' s got problem and I am undergoing through so many medical treatments. He is worried so much about my health.

So anybody, who have the experience with superfertyle, can tell should I continue taking the tablet or not?

will be waiting for the response as soon as possible and also waiting for words of support.

Thanks,
Depressed
veena replied. Hi,

I totally understand your mental state. We tried for 10 yrs! finally got preg. now. So keep trying.

I don' t understand why you stopped IVF (or ICSI). You need to give atleast 3-4 tries before giving up. If you conceived once means, you are 100% capable to conceive, its just the time and luck which is not on your side. I feel that your 3rd attempt will be success (I have this intution issue, I just feel and most of the time it will be right. After reading your msg I felt that your 3 attempt will be successful and I' m not a soothe sayer!!)

Pls visit Dr. Bina Vasan in manipal IVF. We consulted her and got pregnant. Pls see her.

Best regards
Veena babu replied. hi,u should not give up hopes i was in a similar situatio now i am pregnant with 4th icsi cycle.u should go to a good ivf specialist everything will be alright nishi replied. I cant understand y have u given up ICSI? It is your best bet and please dont lose up so soon..... People keep trying for years and years and finally they get success..... So dont lose heart just keep trying ICSI and you will certainly have your baby one day.
All the Best! Polly replied. Have u or anybody else done a laproscopy...what is it like, and what are the precautions Anjali replied. Hi my friend,

Dont worry abt this too much.Everything will be allright soon. Since u hav already conceived once by ICSI....there is certainly a ray of hope. Just do your duty well...What I meant to say was...try hard. Do all that you can and just keep faith in GOD. There is nothing which is impossible for him...And keep you hubby in good spirits always...Let him never feel that its bocs of him all this is happening to you. I now its a tough situation to deal with.
I have also faced the same situation.. but I have convinced him that it is not at all his fault. See ...tis is nnot in our hands. rt? Anything can happen to any one....So just keep relaxed and keep trying.

Best Wishes To Both of You.

Regards
Anjali Rose replied. Y dnt you take yoga classes it really helps you to relax...

My husband is a doc in UK... are you still in UK?? we live in portsmouth in south.. if you live nearby you could drop by with your reports and may be he could hepl you guys.

But if you are talking abt relaxing... you should take yoga classes.. vidhu replied. hi,

read ur post...i can totally understand ur situation. i feel that u r too young to make an attempty to adoption if u have n mind that u wanna bear ur own child...Adoption is also a great idea to welcome but if u feel u want tio have ur own baby, then i wd suggest u to try for soem more time. I was also married for 5 years. I took my reatment n Dr.Patil Infertility clinic for my PCOD Issue. I udnerwent 3 IUI' s and got conceived n the 3rd One. Have delievred a baby boy last year. I was also undergoing treatment there n the Year 2006. Just telling this to give u a positive energy...My best wishes & prayers to u to conceive soon. Good Luck dear.
Also do make ur hubby ubnderstand that Kid comes second when compared to Husband & wife. So make him understand that he is important to u and u both psl be relieved of allthese Conceiving tension and u wd get to tell us the good newz soon...
Best wishes to u both,
Vidhu semi replied. Hi there

I can feel your pain since I am in same boat from last 10 yr. Well I don' t have any experience or knowledge about Ayurvedic infertility medicine so I am not in state to make any suggestion here but I would say if that medicine is not doing any good to you, and rather bad to you, than YOu need to consult with your Ayurvedic doctor about it. Why she prescribed this medicine to you when you are healthy and normal persone from fertility point of view. So I would say - talk to your Ayurvedic dr.
You will also find several people on this board with similar low sperm problem but that does not mean that you cannot conceive a child. Of course luck also play a bigger role in every aspect of life and no one understand that better than me... I know you have tried 2 round of ivf and unfortunately it was not successful but I would say - you are still young and have great chance to achieve pregency. Why not you consult any good ivf speciality in UK itself and go through another 1 or 2 round of ivf with PGD (If you have good no. of eggs to try PGD). The best bet is ivf with icsi and pgd for you due to low sperm problem. Please give it a try again. YOu will sure be blessed.
good luck.
semi