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i am 30 years old lady having one baby girl of 2+...i just want to know how far it will be fairful to my daughter to keep her alone ..means dont do any other baby . Although i dont hv any kind of plm ,even then i dont want to go for another kid but scared of its result may be good and may be wrong ...i talked most of women about it but all replied to go for other child. every one says... do bacche to hone hi chaihiye.. but i dont know why ???? when v r happy with one but smtimes i feel today i am happy may be we regret in future.... perhaps if i wrong then i hv to face lot of plm... then at that time i will be alone to cry no one will come to wipe my tears... i am very emotional ..suppose my daughter tell to me, mom i dont hv any sister or brother ....or c may say with whom i play?? then what will be my reply... at that time i may regret and cry........... so pls tell me the solution to come over it. PP replied. Hi Nisha,

I understand ur situation.
You know just thinking of wht my child will say....is not correctone.And as far as we are seeing the situations around us...tell me how frequently we are visiting to our brothers/sister' s houses.......even our parents.?
How much of us are really have time to discuss our issues or problems with our siblings ?
And why dont u think of this side that a single child will have 100% of her/his parents ,then let it be the time,money,concentration..........
And if you are thinking of future then think of the situation that today somewhere we compromise,either to our career or to our child care(Keeping maids), so why not have one child and raise him/her at our best and supoort him/her when he/she will be in same situation where we are today.He/She will not reuired to sacrifice ant of it.

Secondly, I think u must discuss it with ur husband,whether to go for second baby or not.....
There are lot many things u can jortdown and they will guide u whether to go for next or not.

I hope this help u.

Or let me know if you have any specifis points to discuss.

Thanks
PP

P replied. Dear Nisha:
Am very sorry for the delay in responding to u. But i would always insist you to go for another kid. The world may change the technology would change but there would be existence of mankind. Afterall we are all social beings we need each other' s company. So dont listen to people what they say and it all depends on what best you want to give to your child. Well we have one dau of 7 yrs and definitely we are going for second innings.So all the best to you . Please go ahead. Have a smooth and safe ride. Bye. P replied. Hi Nisha:
Thanks for agreeing with me. But certain things in life do not come without any sacrifice. You cant have ghee in one hand and milk in another. To gain something u need to loose or sacrifice something else. So dont worry about things will fall in place. Nowadays you have many otions like you can have a nanny at home. Else you can call a maid who can stay with you all for some considerable time. Ofcourse all these things comes with a cost. But if u have a will there is a way. And you know one thing if your daughter has a sibling of her all your sacrifices are worth and you will rejoice it through out your life. So all the best . The ball is in ur court. P replied. Dear Nisha:
I guess you yourself have given the answers. Now you are 30 years old but after about 4 or 5 years you will not have any choice. May be the complications during the over age pregnancy would leave you with less choice. Infact my wife and me were busy in shaping our career but now we feel its too late to think of having another baby due to various medical complications. So I personally feel its right time to have another baby before it is too late. Just think of your baby who is deprived of a sibling through out his/her life. All the best just go ahead and buzz me when u r pregnant.
P replied. Dear Nisha:
I guess you yourself have given the answers. Now you are 30 years old but after about 4 or 5 years you will not have any choice. May be the complications during the over age pregnancy would leave you with less choice. Infact my wife and me were busy in shaping our career but now we feel its too late to think of having another baby due to various medical complications. So I personally feel its right time to have another baby before it is too late. Just think of your baby who is deprived of a sibling through out his/her life. All the best just go ahead and buzz me when u r pregnant.
Smita replied. I can totally empathise with u since i am sailing in the same boat. i am a 32 year old full time mother to my 4 year old daughter. we are a very happy family and i do not want any addition in my family since i feel that would leave me with little energy to look after my elder one. so i feel its best to have one child, be a friend and a parent to her and be happy within urself. its alwayz better to do what ur heart sayz rather than pondering over other' s remarks. so if u r happy with one child u should not think of u regretting in the near future. just try to help ur child develop into a positive, cheerful, strong and loving personality. all the best!!!!