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I am a 17 year old girl and staying in Mumbai with my brother & his wife since the last few months now.Earlier I was in Surat with my parents but now because of having got an admission in this city for BSc.My brother is 29 and his wife is 23 and are happily married since the last 3 years.Since the last 3 years I always thought of myself to be lucky to get a beautiful and kind Bhabhi like this.My bhabhi is an excellent housewife and we both always got along very well together.But a few incidents recently hapenning have been making me feel strange.My bhabhi only wears a saree in the house according to my bro & her wish.From about a 3 to 4 months ago when we were to go somewhere out she surpried me by changing her saree in front of my brother when I was there in the room.Later on when my college saree day came she was forcing me a lot on allowing her to make me wear a saree which I didnt allow and she did not like it.I felt this very odd to show off my body to her.She is 8 weeks pregnant now and the time since she was detected pregnant she and my bro have been behaving really strange.The day from which she has been preg I have seen my brother kissing her stomach atleast a 100 times right in front of me.As soon as she hears the noise of my brothers bike when he comes back from work she quickly pulls her saree down and tucks it in such a way that the whole stomach is visible and roams in the house the whole day this way.Earlier few days my brother used to go with her to the doctor but being in IT line recently he was made to stay late & so I had to take bhabhi to the doctor.I had the shock of my life when I came to know that the doctor was a male & was even shocked to see the way checkup was done.He asked her lower her saree a bit & my bhabhi put to down till the hip bone.The state in which she is with her region right from below the blouse to her hip bone looks really vulguar.The doctor keeps on pressing different parts of her tummy.The worst thing is that they keep on talking on some irrevant topics during the checkup & she feels all this normal and even giggles at times saying that it tickles.Last time after the checkup was done she just kept lying over there all exposed talking about the doc's wife's job.All the time the doc's hand was on her tummy.I told her this later on & she said there was nothing wrong in it as he was a doctor.Frankly speaking she could have also got the checkup done with shifting her saree off & showing off her whole tummy as the doc could have got the same info even pressing it over the saree.
The same night when I was just about to go to sleep when strange noises outside their room.I slowly opened the door & was speechless when I saw what was happening.My bro was moving his mouth down & below her tummy hole with his poking moustach & beard rubbing over it really hard and biting it.I bet no woman in this world other then her would have been able to go for such an uncomfortable thing.I mean it was like rubbing a brush over your stomach hole.As far as I know about her skin is the softest & the most delicate one.Pinch over it once & it would stay pink for seconds.The only way I feel could she enjoy such a thing was because her whole mind was dirty.I felt guilty for having seen their private moments but this was something really ugly.I have lost even the little bit of respect I had for her.atleast the soft lady and decent image is gone.I
cant understand what made her not feel the pain in the belly while my bro was doing those dirty things & what makes her feel so comfortable having her bare tummy touched all the way by a man who is not her husband.Really Strange!!!!!Is there anyway you think I can change the way thing are going.Would I ever see the same Bhabhi again. A replied. That is what I can say. Believe me no body could be more concerned about the healthy baby than you bro and bhabhi. Grow up kiddo and stop fussing abt it. rashi replied. hi dear...it's just that reading u'r message made me realise how naive we girls r in India...or atleast most of us....till we get married!!!
Pls let me begin by saying that all that u'r bahbhi is going through is normal. U have to realise that the gyno is a doc and is cheching to make sure that all is ok with the baby. During a check up u normally tend to talk about other things to take of u'r mind from what is going on and make the examination less embaressing. and trust me all the doc is doing is routine and with everyone.
Also u need to resalise that u r living with u'r bro and his wife and they will have intimate momnets. This pregnacy is special to both of them. My hubby used to caress and talk to my stomach all the time...
maybe they don't realise that u r still very young and not exposed to all this.
But lot of things happen behind closed doors and it's their wish how they enjoy sex...there is nothing wrong with it. When u love some one u want to be physical in all ways so touching caressing and kissing is all normal.

i stayed in a hostel when i turned 16...trust me i was soooo embarressed to change clothes in front of other girls and they didn't care...but eventually...it was no big deal...it is called shyness.
pls don't think that there is anything wrong with u'r bhabhi....as u said u get along well with her and also she is happy to have u in her home....trust me u r so better off then most people who want a bhabhi like your's. looks like she treats u like her little sister....so enjoy this and beleive me all that she is doing is normal. Now if she was to flaunt her tummy to some stranger on the street i would be concered.....but she is just getting bigger and wants to share that with your brother!!! Archie replied. Hi Hiralal,

You being 17 yr and unmarried and lived within family would make you feel the way you are.

There is nothing wrong with your Bhabhi and people have pointed that clearly.

If your Bhabhi is showing some parts of body in front of you that's fine, you are a girl too and like her little sister.

About Dr. It's fair to have him touched all parts you explained. Any Dr would check the same way to get clear understanding. You would not have complained if that Dr. was a lady. This is to do with how you have brought up and not experienced for such thing. In fact indirectly your brother ans SIL is teaching you something. It's not dirty or things like you are thinking.

While pregnant it's important for Dr. to look from Breast till little above vagina and some time withing vagina. The fact your brother is responsible choosing Dr. definitely this Dr might be the best choice.

You don't need to worry. Your Bhabhi need your and everybodies support to sail this emotional journey of pregnancy.

Again when you marry you will understand everything you see is perfectly normal.

Hope you are going to be OK after this.
Archie A replied. Hi Hiral,
About the doctor's visit, I am also pregnant right now and had my doctor's visit. Doctor's usually touch the tummy directly so that they can apply proper pressure and check the things. As per exposing the lower portion is concerned, it is not always neccessary unless doctor is doing a vaginal check-up. Well, doctor's usually measure the belly size, so your whole tummy needs to be exposed. As per their intimate moment is concerned, well, only your bhabhi can reply whether she was enjoying it or wanted to please your brother, but yeah, there are always a few things which either one of the partner doesn't like but have to do it to please the other partner, not only women but men also. And it is a way of expressing that you care for other partner's feelings. Believe me you are un-necessarily making this a big issue. If you are uncomfortable, try to discuss it with your bhabhi. I will repeat once again that you will understand all these things once you get married. ss replied. There is nothing wrong with her behavior. Since you are not married, I guess these things seem odd to you. I felt the same way when my sister's delivery was carried out by a male gyneac. But he was the only one available at midnight when she got her labour pains. If you feel really uncomfortable with all this,you can tell your mother and maybe look for an alternative accomadation. A replied. Dear Hiral,
There is nothing odd or wrong about your bhabhi and so is about your brother's behaviour towards her. Your brother and bhabhi are used to of living alone before you joined them. It is very common to express the feelings in open for such couples. Believe me, after marriage woman's perception changes a lot. Changing saree infront of you is not at all a big deal so is asking to help you. As per doctor's visit is concerned, even your brother knows that it is a male doctor and they must have selected the doctor for some reasons of their own. Well, I agree to you that she could have covered herself after the check-up, but may be she was just ignorant. Now that she will become a mother, you should be more open to these things. She will have to breast-feed her baby infront of you and may be someone else too, that doesn't mean that she has dirty mind or something. As per the intimate moment between your brother and bhabhi is concerned, people have their own ways of enjoying sex life and there is nothing wrong with that. You will understand these things once you get married. Meanwhile, I will just suggest you to be nice with your bhabhi and help her out while she is pregnant. Try to think positive. As long as, you know that your bhabhi is committed to your brother, you should not bother about these things.

A.