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Hi,

I am married for quite some time. It is an arranged marriage. My husband and me are not compatible. I mean our topics of interest, looks, personality and intelligence. I am good looking and he is not. I feel so insecured to go out with him. He is nice and caring person, financlially also Ok, but the problem is I am not enjoying my life. I want to marry some one who is jovial, has good sense of humor, decent looks, decent physique and intelligent. I feel that I am wasting my whole life with a wrong person. I am trying to convince myself a lot saying that, I should be happy with ehat I have but I am unable to. its more become a psycological problem for me now.
Do you think I should discuss this with my husband and ask for a divorce before I a have kids.
Another question is, may be I will find a person with all these qualities but will I be able to live with same diginity and pride with the second person.

What do I do? Please suggest Preeti replied. hi ch,
sachin is right,,, Looks are not everything that matter in life....When you know his positive points.,..... you can focus more on them and think of improving on them....You know i am die-hard romantic..i mean i love candle-light dinners, movies...etc.....but my husband is very boring....he never took me for candle light ..etc... but the solution is you both need to sit together and understand each other well, may be there are some common interests that you both can grow ..which would encourage you to spend more time with each other.... Sachin replied. i could ask the best and most handsome guy to marry you...if you promise never to lose your good looks and grow old...grow up...looks don' t last...in years you would grow old and look like a sucked mango...be happy with your nice and caring hubby... S replied. Hi ch, Same is the story with me I am a good looking IT professional but my wife is from small town and not very smart I also feel the same way you are feeling.

wishing you good luck.