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me and husband fight very often.and our fights turn into physical also.but the thing is that we love each other a lot.we are caring to each other, have great sex etc,etc.but we cant control ourselves when a fight starts.my hubby starts beating me when he cant win with words and i also beat him when i feel i cant take anymore.recently my hubby did beat me infront of his brother which has made me very upset.i feel ashamed of our behaviour.but its not entirely his fault.i am very stubborn and cant blindly follow what hubby says in many occasions which irritates him.most of our fights are on trivial matters and after a fight we make up within a few minutes.but later the whole thing upset my mind and i feel unhappy.i dont think my hubby is an abuser though some of you may think so.he is a very calm person otherwise and everyone around him love him and respect him.where as i come from a family where my parents fought often and it also turned physical many times.so i tend to believe that its my nature thats causing the trouble and its me who is wrong.what do you people think?just to add....we have a cute three year old son and we all unite like a happy family when we dont fight kissing and loving each other. women replied. i guess if you know this physical part is wrong try to stop it.atleast try not to pass it on to the next gen. do not do the fightings in front of your child.